women are the social glue, they are the caretakers, the compassionate ones. they are the wombs, they are the mothers. they are driven by feelings, they take care of the house. they cook and they love children.
women have to respect men, especially "their" man (no matter what they do to us, nobody beliefs us anyway, how would we even accurately judge such a situation, with all our feelings getting in the way? /s)

feminism started to loosen the bricks a bit already.

hey what if I am a women who's super smart and rational and actually I fucking want to go to university and become a big brain smart PhD?

what if I don't want kids?

what if I don't derive my self worth from existing for others (namely husband and kids)?

then came the gays and lesbians... what if I am attracted to the same gender?

but now come the transgender folks:

they don't just threatened aspects of patriarchy, they threaten the whole concept:
what even is the point of having rigid gender structures for men and women, when people you thought of as men, suddenly (for others) proclaim "actually, I feel more comfortable being put into the woman category"?

what do you do, when your whole system relies on being able to identify and put people into these two categories?

well at first they try to justify it, as just being a "mental illness".
gender dysphoria to be relieved by operations. trans people who accept it and neatly fit into the gender binary again are rewarded (just think of people like blaire white).

But trans people kept pushing back on that bullshit

and then come the nonbinaries. instead of accepting the categories, they created an "outside of those categories" a "what if I think gender is Bullshit" category, a "I kind of feel like either sometimes and sometimes I feel like neither" category... a whole rainbow of categories, more and more granularly defined colors of an infinite spectrum, while the conservatives tried to neatly and tidyly sort us into two and only two (ok maybe three, men, women and the deviants? the outcasts? the untouchable? the ostracized?) categories.

do you see what I am getting at?

you know, as an autistic kid, when I grew up, it was kind of the same.

I just wanted to be and to be left alone and maybe a tiny bit feel acceptance for who I was here and there... and people just fucking hated me. for what even?

I realized: just for being different.

the more I learned about psychology and politics I realized:

me being myself scared the shit out of them 🤣

and it's the same with trans people nowadays:

our freedom of expression, our freedom to be ourselves, our connections to each other, our collective deconstruction of patriarchy... it scares them.

it scares the people who profit from the system, as well as the average joe manly man.

because: as a patriarch cult follower our manly man joe knows what is expected of him. what he can expect from society. his goals, his sense of being and self worth are tightly tied to being a patriarchical manly man.

who would he be without it?

where does he get his sexual pleasure from, when he doesn't get the wife he thinks he deserves (because patriarchy told him so).

-which is btw why men start whining when we don't give them the sex or attention they think we owe them-

what are his goals in life, if not those patriarchy set for him?

what you need to realize is that being free is not just a good thing, it's also immensely scary.

I recently read "anxiety is just the brain not knowing how the future looks" and it makes perfect sense in that case: how would a joe manly man who never had to set his own goals (because patriarchy did it for him) know what his future entails without patriarchy and it's promises?

the rigid structure and having a leader who "takes care of you and your needs" it's really comforting to some people.

their own sense of self is so fragile that it can't exist without eternal external gratification. they are not being accepted for being themselves, they are being accepted for falling in line with everyone else.

which works fine for you, if you are naturally inclined to follow such structures.