jessica by the bayDec 19, 2022

This is your year non-trans folks. This is the year

to be the one to call out grandma for misgendering your non-binary cousin,

to point out how fucked up your uncle’s transphobic jokes are, or

to tell your mom that her excuses for deadnaming someone aren’t good enough.

It’s time to make this your problem. How are you going to stand up for trans people this holiday?

Show threadEric McCorkleDec 19, 2022
@rooster I don't know whether this already exists, but I'd be interested in an effort to identify the most effective pro-trans/pro-lgbtq arguments and rhetorical devices.
Show threadjessica by the bay
@emc2 I don't know, but I do know we underestimate the power of a well placed "that's a really fucked up thing to say"
Dec 19, 2022 at 4:28pmWeb
Show threadTerrafied Kestrel Dec 19, 2022
@rooster @emc2 Exactly. Also, for older ones, a quick drive-by "Isn't that the same thing they said about gay people in the 80s?" is a heck of a bullet. You don't even have to engage in a full argument. Whatever they come back with is just "It just sounds exactly like what they said about gays in the 80s is all." And then drive on past. (because, hint, it is. And this hits older ones hard because they will remember either fighting that or being that and learning better or giving up.)
Show threadEric McCorkleDec 19, 2022
@terrafiedkestrel @rooster Interracial marriage also, for those who have baseline homophobia.
Show threadJuliaDec 20, 2022
@terrafiedkestrel @rooster @emc2 I’ve used this one a few times works like a targeted missile for anyone over 40
Show threadsaul b   🎡Dec 20, 2022
@terrafiedkestrel @rooster @emc2 this is extremely good, I also support the “drive-by” method. You don’t have to turn it into a big long debate, just a quick point to make it known where you stand and to point out the bigotry on display.
Show threadZombie Rust PunkDec 19, 2022

@rooster @emc2 During my decades of being “a really good ally” (aka deep in denial), I got a lot of mileage out of:

“That’s none of your goddamn business.”

and

“You don’t have to understand it to be respectful. You’re a grownup. Act like it.”

I was pretty aggro, lol.