RI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022

Something I think all survivors of interpersonal abuse and/or toxicity understand, is that after a certain point, questions of whether someone is a good person or a bad person, has good character or bad character, is virtuous or sinful becomes irrelevant.

What matters is their patterns of behavior.

Show threadcyborgneticzDec 2, 2022
@so_treu
I'm going to talk about that in therapy
the guilt that can come from being like 'I know better. I've seen these behaviors before. Why did I not notice this time'
Show threadAmeliaDec 2, 2022
@Cyborgneticz @so_treu Oof, yes, and the frequency with which our desire to see the good side of people inhibits that pattern recognition and leads to further victimization.
Show threadRI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022
@mordremoth @Cyborgneticz or excusing them because "well they're only acting like that because of the trauma THEY'VE endured, I should be more patient........" Meanwhile they're traumatizing you in the here and now 🥴
Show threadcyborgneticz
@so_treu @mordremoth
why hello there one of my recent relationships
Dec 2, 2022 at 7:03pmWeb
Show threadRI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022

@Cyborgneticz @mordremoth Literally my last relationship! 😭😭

Solidarity in our healing process. <3

Show threadcyborgneticzDec 2, 2022
@so_treu @mordremoth
<3 <3 <3 <3