RI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022

Something I think all survivors of interpersonal abuse and/or toxicity understand, is that after a certain point, questions of whether someone is a good person or a bad person, has good character or bad character, is virtuous or sinful becomes irrelevant.

What matters is their patterns of behavior.

Show threadcyborgneticz
@so_treu
I'm going to talk about that in therapy
the guilt that can come from being like 'I know better. I've seen these behaviors before. Why did I not notice this time'
Dec 2, 2022 at 5:50pmWeb
Show threadAmeliaDec 2, 2022
@Cyborgneticz @so_treu Oof, yes, and the frequency with which our desire to see the good side of people inhibits that pattern recognition and leads to further victimization.
Show threadRI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022
@mordremoth @Cyborgneticz or excusing them because "well they're only acting like that because of the trauma THEY'VE endured, I should be more patient........" Meanwhile they're traumatizing you in the here and now 🥴
Show threadcyborgneticzDec 2, 2022
@so_treu @mordremoth
why hello there one of my recent relationships
Show threadRI DaSēr KDec 2, 2022

@Cyborgneticz @mordremoth Literally my last relationship! 😭😭

Solidarity in our healing process. <3

Show threadcyborgneticzDec 2, 2022
@so_treu @mordremoth
<3 <3 <3 <3
Show threadjec&Dec 2, 2022
@Cyborgneticz @mordremoth @so_treu That also gets exploited with the promises of "I can change" and alternated with the "this is not me, you/we bring out the worst in me".

Sorry I can't do CWs from my platform, Friendica.