Swapna KrishnaWhen it comes to Mastodon, I’ve had higher than usual unpleasant experiences of men trying to explain things to me or men asking me leading questions so they can explain things to me (usually that thing involves why Mastodon is better than all the others). Has anyone else has that experience?
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Helena Pérez Valle@skrishna yes, the tone is a lot more paternalistic here even in random conversations, and especially about the platform itself.
@skrishna Like men explaining how I’m using the platform wrong (e.g. around threading and listing or unlisting replies), without considering I may have my reasons for listing (e.g. hashtags don’t work on unlisted toots). It’s fine to let me know (sometimes I forget to unlist!) but there’s ways and there’s tone.
Keith Harrison@minimammoth @skrishna I have no idea what any of that means!! 🤦🏽♂️🤷🏽♂️
@minimammoth do you mind me boosting this because you are absolutely right
@skrishna not at all, go ahead.
boojit@skrishna @minimammoth Interested that you asked for permission to boost -- I've never asked this when boosting. Should I start doing this? Is this considered good mastodon manners?
@boojit @minimammoth I don’t think it’s general etiquette here, but I do it when it’s about a thing that could get someone some hate thrown their way.
@minimammoth @skrishna this is really good to know. Due to (a) i have very few followers and (b) male/white privilege blind spot; i don't consider the harm component as much as I should. (and I should).
That you were asking for permission as way to reduce potential harm never occurred to me. Thanks for the opportunity to learn.