Today, the resentment-guilt cycle is uppermost in my mind.
I hate it. I know these are normal feelings but after 10 years & now another family member needing more & more, I feel rotten
It’ll pass. Because it has to, eh? #carers #caringforagingparents
@Lomelindi12 sending you solidarity hugs. i'm not in that position, but i have been there and it is far from comfortable.
may i suggest you do something nice for yourself today? just a small thing, if a big thing isn't reachable right now. even tiny things help. especially when they're regular.
self care is a radical act, and a vital one when we're caring for others. please centre you, too 🤗
Hello & thank you. Yes, a small thing is having a cappuccino & trying to talk myself out of feeling self-pitying & martyr-ish (neither of which are my character). Just one of those days…#carer #caringforagingparents
@Lomelindi12 wellll, it's not anyone's place to tell you to do/not do anything. buuuuut... i have learned (the hard way) that it helps to acknowledge the less good feels. you're *allowed* to feel bad about feeling bad. i found that takes the pressure off a little.
you're doing a big, good thing. that doesn't mean you're supposed to love it. allowing whatever feels arise will diminish them more than fighting them.
enjoy your cappuccino. and maybe a bite of cake/yum too? 🤔
I think that’s very wise. No good comes of squishing everything down…
Lomelindi12
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