Pete WharmbyApparently asking questions to really clarify instructions, so we don't get it all wrong, is 'weird'.
Apparently we're just meant to, what, guess or something? And if we guess right we...win?
Doesn't seem terribly efficient.
Dan Sanguineti@PeteWharmby the amount of guessing I’ve done in my life is just insane, thanks in great part being made to feel wrong or uncomfortable in trying to clarify.
Ysharros@PeteWharmby It's like having to guess what we did wrong, or how people are feeling. Bleh.
neuroqueer neptune witch@ren omg neuroqueer bird fam! thank you for finding me xoxo (i more or less hate it here but you know 😭 )
nanobriThat NT's and #Neurodivergent's find different types of things intuitively obvious makes for all sorts of friction here.
In comes the Double Empathy Problem. NDs must learn to manage both the NT's set of "obvious" things (and innately know our own set), but the NT's seldom reciprocate that awareness.
Katherine Tierney@PeteWharmby I'm always the one to ask questions, and usually I see others nod or seem relieved that someone asked. I think a lot of people prefer to guess than risk asking what might seem a stupid question.
(I usually limit my questions or save some for later if I feel like I'm taking over a meeting or something though!)
(I usually limit my questions or save some for later if I feel like I'm taking over a meeting or something though!)
Reido@Kisobelle @PeteWharmby Yes! I have not always been very good at the self-editing function, though, and was thought stubborn or antagonistic. I do wonder, sometimes, though, how "they" ever know how to get things done without any clarity about expectations or methods? It's a mystery.
The AnonymouseThis has literally been my life experience.
So many workplaces where I have become an irritant (or worse) purely because I want to know how to do the job properly!
At least being diagnosed ASD gives me something to tell management so that they understand why I ask questions.