I'm not generally upset that I'm not out in public
it's fine for me to wear jeans & a t-shirt, just like it's fine for anyone else
but some days I look at myself, like today, and realize I dressed myself like a default character creator output
like a newly-generated sim
like the most boring straight guy
plain black t-shirt
plain jeans
boring underwear
boring socks
generic plain old person sneakers
and I think less of myself for it
@stella my thighs are too thick for most long socks
also i have fancier socks in my dresser, i just ended up not wearing them to work today
@hexwren get big fuzzy boots and cat ears and crop tops
go to sock dreams for plus size thigh highs
i appreciate the effort but, like, these are not reasonable solutions for my situation and body
it is like a billion degrees where i live, always
also, no, nobody should see my body in revealing clothing
also also, i am at work where I am very much not out beyond a they/them pin and constantly asking people to not call me "sir"
@hexwren I am out in public and still have the default character creator output. Clothes are expensive and the default outfit is comfy.
But if you don't think it's comfy, maybe look around for something that is? Doesn't have to be super obvious for you to know about it and find comfort in it.
@leah i do have a few nice turns here and there and get more as i go, but really my biggest enemy is the three seconds (metaphorical, not literal) i spend in my (literal, not metaphorical) closet between waking up and going to work and not putting any thought into the outfit beyond "does it cover all the parts"
that and owning something like fifteen identical black t-shirts
and any number of non-identical black t-shirts
etc
it's partly the situation, yes, but it's far more the fight against convenience
H. Wren D'Arcy
Stella 
Leah