The Ghost of ÉmilieIt wasn't wrong, it's just that the first person was on a rampage, trying to prove themselves... and they were right, too. So... both sides were right, and they were arguing as if they disagreed with each other. It was pretty dumb.
Then... something even dumber happened... And I couldn't even explain why it was dumb.
Let's call the first person Angel and the second person Joe.
So... after this argument, the one where both people were right... Joe makes this post... which is a critique of the way Angel was talking... but it was so unclear.
I get the feeling someone might say "But you're unclear" at this point, because that's what the troll within me would say to myself... I just want to say that I know you're out there and I get it.
The post was unclear because it was directed at Angel, but Angel was never referenced specifically. As in, they wanted Angel to read it and understand their behavior was wrong, but they didn't actually send it to Angel.
And from my previous interactions with Joe, I knew there was no way in hell they would ever put two and two together and see this was directed at them.
And no, I'm not a hypocrite because this is me telling a story, and this is not directed at anyone and I don't want anyone to change as a result of reading this.
Now I'm thinking about what a better way to get someone to change is...
This thread is such a mess... Anyway...
I think the first step... is to get them to "opt-in" to what you're saying... So you would say something like "Hey (Name), I felt weird about our interaction earlier, can we talk about that?"
That's a very important step... because if you don't do that, then they might get defensive because they might disagree that something they did is wrong, or they might not understand how it was wrong.
If they opt-in to have a conversation about it, that's a lot better than just starting with "Here's a list of things you do wrong."
This was going somewhere, but I forgot where. I would say... other than that, focus on the positive, focus on yourself, and try to only correct one behavior at once... Also don't correct every behavior (like the people who remind you of your grammar mistakes).
I would like to go more into what exactly those things mean... but... it's past midnight... so maybe tomorrow.
Dr. PercyGood night fedi with the lowercase F. #Fedi
Oh chit, I still haven't gone to bed yet.
@frankie Well, I could join a cult, I guess. What day is it? Oh, it's Friday.
@thebiologist1117
Ah, Em, the best day to join a cult, indeed! 🥳
Ah, Em, the best day to join a cult, indeed! 🥳
@thebiologist1117
I'd observed something in a George Harrison song, in which he sings, "While I'm sitting here doing nothing but aging..." 
That's a swell statement. Even if we think we're not doing anything at a given point in time, we are in fact aging!
*ages*
@frankie Once you age enough, it starts to get noticeable... Luckily, even just 20 years feels like forever when you're growing up.
@frankie And I've got... 4 more of those to go till I'm 100.
@frankie What if I only ever posted as replies to this thread?
@frankie I guess I'll reblog my own poll. 🎉
@thebiologist1117
I bookmark some important posts of mine, so that I can periodically retoot it!
Fedilab even has a schedule-a-boost feature!
@frankie Oh, that's a cool idea... Maybe I'll try that. I try to reblog every post from #GoodMorningClub... I also reblog people's posts if they reblog mine...
Lydia Conwell 
@lydiaconwell Did you ever try... 😏
@thebiologist1117 No, not yet. But I will do when i've got time.
@lydiaconwell Okie! I was curious.
@thebiologist1117 How long does it take to install, anyway? I'm expecting a morning and some part of the afternoon.
I just imagine there's some important set up things you have to do before installing.
@lydiaconwell It takes me about 20 minutes to install Debian.
@lydiaconwell Debian is a popular Linux distribution.