Anyway I'm bi or whatever and pride month always leaves a bitter fucking taste in my mouth because of how biphobic both straights and other queers can be. Is it so hard to take me seriously?

I'm neither gay nor straight, I'm bisexual and I prefer to use that term over pansexual, but I'm into a lot of different "types" of people. It's like being attracted to people of the opposite gender as well makes me somehow less valid? Even to the point that this is somehow "not an issue?"

Am I a joke? A lot of gays don't take bi erasure seriously. It's like they're saying, "Oh haha, that's just the thing that they're upset about, but they're not a real gay/haven't settled on their identity so it's not a problem." Don't you dare fucking infantilize us. We're fully part of the community and it's not YOUR place to evaluate our queerness. To determine if it's "enough." How terribly offensive.

If you're talking about how you can "turn" people and convert bisexual people, or how bisexual people ruin gay and lesbian spaces, or about how we're "experimenting," or somehow less committed than anyone else, you should be ashamed. We're right there with you pushing for a better society and to shit on us like this makes me so angry.
#bisexual

Here's some FUN FACTS:
- Bisexual people can be poly. I am not. I would prefer to just be with one person. And even if I were, it doesn't make me untrustworthy.

- Bisexual people can have relationships. In fact, a lot of them like relationships! Could you imagine something like that?

- They can be in a straight relationship and STILL be bisexual! Who would've guessed that someone's sexuality doesn't spontaneously change based on the relationship they're in?

- Being bi has literally nothing to do with whether or not you need consent.

- It's dehumanizing to treat bisexual people like objects, or to treat them like they can't make their own decisions.

- Ignorance about why what you're saying is offensive doesn't make it hurt any less.

I ran out of steam, I can only be angry for so long. Also fuck, bi men are REAL TOO

@vultureculture Bifolk Exist and Bi men are MAJESTIC ✊🏾😤✨

@vultureculture my partner and I are both bisexual, but, yeah, i often feel that only since my transition are we somehow valid queers.

a lot of that might be somehow self-imposed
but i still think that really stinks

@meena even if it is self imposed, it's still reflective of your anxieties about not being accepted in the community, and I think that's a perfectly valid way to feel. I hope you can be VALIDATED and EMPOWERED with cool queer energy and comfy self identity 😤

@vultureculture to be fair*, i think a lot of this also has to do that i feel at home where i live, wherever i live, i feel extremely alienated from German "culture".

but we're moving to ireland soon, so let's see how that turns out

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*you should never be fair to germans

@vultureculture Bi erasure is fucking RAMPANT in mainstream LGBT land. ESPECIALLY bi men like me.
@bradysflungtablet yeah it's uhhh GREAT, ain't it
"Oh you're bisexual? I'm not into threesomes"
"Oh you're biphobic? I'm gonna squeeze your noggin until you get a real bad headache"
@vultureculture I literally had a bisexual woman, an openly bisexual woman, tell me it was icky for men to be bi.
@bradysflungtablet god, that's awful, I'm sorry to hear it. There are shitty people everywhere
@bradysflungtablet @vultureculture that makes no sense. how is a bi person biphobic????
@saturn @vultureculture It was in a D/s context. She seemed overly concerned that bi men always bottomed with other men and therefore I "wasn't a real dominant". It was fucking ridiculous.
@bradysflungtablet @saturn @vultureculture amazing what prejudices exist even among marginalised people. I can't understand that attitude at all