Your Winged Bull bro

Is it fair to say that someone's attitude towards body positivity and diversity should also be judged by who they sleep with?

There are many angles you can look at it from, and they're not always consistent in how we collectively respond - for example, we all agree that writing "No fats, femmes, and Asians" in your dating profile is vile, but we all have met someone who only sleeps with very skinny white twinks and it slides.

Please vote and elaborate!

Yes
25%
No
75%
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Jun 2, 2021 at 10:59amWeb
Show threadToukoJun 2, 2021
@HisNameIsOx my vote is no simply because sleeping with someone is a 2 (or more) person affair - they may be attracted to a diverse range of bodies but frequently find themselves sleeping with a particular type if that is the most available (e.g. I hadn't even kissed any queer POC whilst in my home county because the population is literally 99.9% white)
Show threadShadeJun 2, 2021
@HisNameIsOx I couldn't keep to the character count, so I've written you a mini-essay instead! (Now as a PDF for easier viewing) https://drive.google.com/file/d/1FBovAqRnzOjqFN9i0gJLLARDyDeUHKIG/view?usp=sharing
Show threadYour Winged Bull broJun 2, 2021
@Shade I feel everything you wrote, and I believe it to be a common code of conduct amongst my immediate surroundings - you are allowed to have a preference, just don't be a dick about it. I also feel what you said about the lasting effects of being outside of the beauty standard - we share a body type, and I feel are the most likely group to experience casual disrespect to abuse due to it. But, I also feel like you've missed my bigger question a little;
Show threadYour Winged Bull broJun 2, 2021
@Shade with being legitimate preferences, how much do our partbners say about how we address, express, or support diversity? And yeah, that's a hard one to answer.
Show threadShadeJun 2, 2021

@HisNameIsOx I didn't perhaps extend my essay to reach this conclusion, but my conclusion would be:

You have enough time in your life that on balance, being polite and respectful (and even openly supportive of) people you are not attracted to is always going to be the right thing over mistreating them.

But I won't judge anybody on the diversity or otherwise of their actual sexual partners. The balance here swings the other way.

Show threadDavid the Leather BoyJun 2, 2021

@HisNameIsOx oh this is tricky. I think it varies depending on the person. Sometimes you just have a 'type' but if you ONLY hook up with people who are of that specific type, well, yeah, maybe its a bit questionable.

Like, I've noticed personally I don't hook up with a lot of black people despite living in an incredibly diverse city and it has made me examine my own potential biases.

Show threadBanjoJun 2, 2021
@HisNameIsOx No, your sex life is a 2 person thing and it's dangerous to put an ultimate on something so case dependant
I'm attracted to a lot of folks but if only one body type liked me, that's not me actively avoiding another
Plus I can promote love of my own body type and others and that isn't suddenly null and void if I have a partner that doesn't look like that
Body positivity etc includes twinks too
It's far too grey to give a definitive