Also, why is it always assumed that a man has to ask his girlfriend for permission to play video games. "Does she let you play video games?"
Or when my partner tells his friends/coworkers that I play games too it's "oh is she really into it or do you just make her play?"
What. The. Fuck.
Like, a couple summers ago I was in a really bad place mental health wise. I won't go into details but just trust it was bad.
Old School RuneScape saved me. I just went on autopilot. Care for kids, keep house reasonable, play runescape. I'd play for hours and hours and watch hours of videos on YT and streams on Twitch. I had NO friends, no partner, and wasn't talking to my family much. Runescape and the kids were all I thought about. Runescape was my way of coping and avoiding harmful destructive behaviour.
And STILL... My boyfriend got asked if I really played the game and if I really liked it. They assumed he got me into it and he made me play. 🙄🥴😠
I feel like if you're a woman gamer you aren't seen as a "real gamer" unless your entire life is about some heavy intense game and you know every detail and all the lore behind it. You MUST know the MOST efficient method of gaining whatever you're working on or you're not a "real" fan.
It's like in high school when you wear a band t-shirt and some jerk feels the need to quiz you on every damn little detail about the band. If you don't know every members birthday and what their previous jobs were and their siblings names and whatever whatever you are told you don't deserve to wear the t-shirt. My god 🥴
Besides... What the fuck does "gamer" even mean now? Everyone plays video games. These assholes with their "real gamer" shit can fuck off.
If someone wants to play Hello Kitty Island Adventure and not World of bloody Warcraft let them be, Cartman.
Anyway, I've got maths to teach and a kitchen to clean. adiós for now 🥴✌️
Also, another note.
Consider differently abled gamers.
Due to my epilepsy, I have serious memory problems. I often forget my own partner and children's names for a minute or two and have to sit there and run through the list of names I know until I get it. I'll forget what meal I literally just ate. Watching shows or films again is often like watching them fresh for the first time despite having watched them a week ago. How are you going to expect me to store huge amounts of frivolous game knowledge in an already struggling brain?
I can do something in a game 700 times for hours yet come back the next day and I have totally forgotten where to go, what equipment I need, how to get anywhere, etc.
I guess my memory problems mean I'm not a real fan of bloody anything. Ugh. 🙄
@SpaceToWaste
I feel this post on many levels. Video games are probably my biggest hobby, yet I will never call myself a "gamer" because those kinds of people have tainted the word for me.
I've never cared about "the best" or "the right" way to play a game, I play them because I enjoy escaping my life for a bit and immersing myself into a different world.
These kinds of gamers usually don't understand that because it's all technical to them and they feel they have to assert their dominance of knowledge on the subject.
I don't think they will ever enjoy the game in the same way either, their loss.
There's a lot of sexism in gaming culture in general, but there's especially always going to be sad little boys who are intimidated by women liking ANYTHING they do. Video games, anime, comics it's all the same it threatens them. It all turns into competition and I've never understood it.
I'm male, but have always gotten on better with women so I dreamed of a day when there were more women playing video games and couldn't be happier with the way it is now.
My wife of ten years and I play games together all the time and it makes me happy and is a great bonding experience.
I hear you on the memory part too, I have trouble remembering things in games, books, shows whatever so when I play Skyrim or Fallout I constantly have to ask her where to find things and such so I'd dare somebody to question her on her knowledge of the games she plays. ^_^
We don't play any game the "right way", just how we want to. I think that's the way it was supposed to be.
I typed way more then I meant to and still didn't get all my points across, but the takeaway is play what and how you like and 🖕 those elitist gamers, they truly are sad inside. Sorry for the blog post and overuse of quotations.
@astERISk wow! Thanks for the reply! 😁
I'm totally the same with wanting to play games to just escape into another world. It's definitely true that to some gamers it's all about numbers, xp rates, statistics, and trying to manipulate the game in any way to give them the best and fastest results. It's like a puzzle for them to work out. And that's chill. My boyfriend is like that. I know he gives me a joking side eye when he watches me play runescape or farcry or whatever. But he's not an asshole like a lot of people are. He understands that I just enjoy games in a different way.
I like to talk to every single npc and explore every little thing. That's why I can't enjoy Games Done Quick. I want my fucking money's worth and will soak up every single bit of content and really pretend I am that character. 😂 I enjoy it my way and I don't understand how or why some "gamers" can look down on someone genuinely enjoying a game!
But then they faux bitch about how many people don't play games... Hm, maybe it's because your elitist culture scares people away! Maybe that's their actual game plan? Keep people away from gaming so they can continue to pretend they're *unique* true gaming nerds. Bitch about there being very few women into games whilst fostering a culture of toxic masculinity and degrading the women who do play. 🤔😅
It is sweet that you have your wife play with and to ask about things! That sounds like the "right way" to play to me! 😊😊
Basically, people should be allowed to enjoy things their own damn way without this extreme competitiveness thrown in their face when they didn't even ask for it.
Also, sorry for rambling reply. 😅
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