muesli

My rule for social networks:

What you're reading here typically isn't anyone's opinion. It's merely a thought someone had and shared with you in written form.

We should really try and stop judging or criticizing people as if we're reading their master's thesis.

Aug 16, 2020 at 9:36amWeb
Show threadfedi.absturztau.be Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom this!
Show threadIsi (not active anymore) Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom  yes I agree
So many people get canceled for posts/tweets they did 3am after a long night when they're drunk or something like that, that's so unnecessary!
Not everynyan always wants to be serious and invest the time and effort for voicing a differenciated opinion UwU
Show threadRobert von OlivaAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom I'd rather say that it is an opinion after all, but it's not an important opinion, that you must judge people based on this or shitpost vigorously.
Show threadBeko Pharm (deprecated)Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom specially for even more limited messages. 250-ish characters for example 😅
Show threadmieumAug 16, 2020
Words of wisdom! We have the fediverse at our fingertips—we barely lift a finger to say what we do here. It’s instant, impulsive, and casual...almost like... real life.
Show threadKajo 📷 Aug 16, 2020

@fribbledom A lot of times I'm under the impression that I'm reading opinions rather than only thoughts 🤔

Full ACK otherwise 🙂

Show threadAlex CleacAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom this is rather a good thought to keep in mind for everyone.
Show threadWolf480plAug 16, 2020

@fribbledom
>master's thesis

Lol, masther's thesis is rarely what the author really thinks. It's more of an "I say what you want me to say" thing.

And I'm not talking about outward lying about the results - I hope this is very rare. But more about the whole tone of the thesis.
For example, you wouldn't write "We wasted an incredible amonut of time because of that stupid bug in the library we used. We question the intelligence and programming skills of author of the library."

Show threadWolf480plAug 16, 2020

@fribbledom and much less "We wasted a shitton of time because of that stupid bug in this bloody library. Whoever wrote it must be a moron."

Also, you wouldn't write "the whole experiment was a waste of time, and we should've picked different topic for the thesis, but it's already August and we would prefer to get the degree this year"

Show threadDECAYAug 16, 2020

@fribbledom
Speaking on social media is like speaking in a protest or a massive gathering.

If you speak "nonsense" you will get stomped by the crowd.

You can share thoughts/opinions and emotions to friends, family, people close to you/ making you confortable in any way.
If you forced them on a bunch of strangers, you take chances they won't react in a way you will like.

Another question for me is : Is speaking on social media really "sharing" ? I'm not so sure... (maybe it is, idk).

Show threadZudnAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom
So that's your opinion on the subject? ;)
I'm with you.
Show threadpAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom
Show threadearthtopusAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom I do not understand the distinction you are trying to draw between a social media "opinion" and a "thought...shared...in written form"
Show threadmuesliAug 16, 2020

@earthtopus

An opinion is usually formed by a long series of thoughts all intertwined one way or another and often contradicting each other. Each typically far longer than 500 chars, or whatever the character limit on the social network you're on.

You'll have to follow someone for quite a while to really get an idea of their opinions.

Show threadearthtopusAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom I think "usually" and "typically" are doing a lot of work there for you, and that there is no inherent length requirement for something to constitute a Real Opinion(tm)
Show threadfgazAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom That's why you set the character limit to maxint 
Show threadmidzerAug 16, 2020
@fribbledom true, thats why it's called "micro blogging"
Show thread🐦Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom dunno. There’s already a lot of asshats in the world and I feel like this encourages asshats to continue being asshats instead of encouraging people to be more thoughtful of the impact of their words.
Show thread🐦Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom I see a lot more excuses being made for being hurtful instead of people actually working on being more careful about possibly hurting people. And then a lot of hurt goes around. I just can’t vibe with that.
Show threadmuesliAug 16, 2020

@bird

Oh, I'm all for that, though! Instead of judging someone from a ~280 character message and jumping to conclusions, go respond and try to join in on a friendly discussion. If the person then still turns out to be an asshat... great, one for the list.

Show thread🐦Aug 16, 2020
@fribbledom Yeah, that makes sense too. I feel like that distinction’s pretty important. To try to engage and make light of how their words affect others so they can improve, I mean. Not just to “accept everyone can be hurtful but that doesn’t mean they’re bad so there’s nothing to be done about it.”