Why did we start moving from the #Birdsite is now well knoan. But what can we do to make #mastodon better and not repeat the mistakes of #birdsite. Some thoughts in a #thread
It's easy to blame others for the toxicity. But those of us who moved here -- are we introspective about the mistakes we made inadvertently?
The unfortunate aspect of social media is that it isn't very social. It quickly descends into cliques or closed communities, where echo chambers thrive. There is no real egalitarianism, even though we claim to uphold it.
We also look for similar people. So that out confirmation biases get reinforced. For example, on #birdsite we have #FF (Friday Follows) or recommendations on who to follow. To my mind, that was wrong
When we start recommending lists, people to follow, we end up building social capital that is inherently non egalitarian. It becomes an exercise of our privilege, or adding to the privilege of others. How is that egalitarian?
Isn't everyone equally good enough to follow? Should I arrogate the right to recommend others? Why can't I leave people to decide for themselves? And why can't they exercise their agency to discover new voices, new thoughts?
This inherent tribalism (is social media parochialism) is inherently toxic by nature. It ended up justifying all sorts of toxicity that we eventually witnessed on #birdsite. But we never thought to introspect. Instead, we brought the same habits here. The same privileges and the same inequalities.
So here's what I going to do differently here. I am going to follow more people. Hear new and more voices. Listen. And not recommend anyone. Everyone is good and if you need to follow or hear someone, you will find them. You don't need me.
So here's our chance to actually build a community that is inclusive, egalitarian and not exclusive by design. Let's hope we can keep it that way. Happy tooting folks! And a Happy #Gurpurab

@Saikatd very well said Saikat. We need to stop building idols, heroes and temples here. Every voice important as long as it is respectful.

Let’s all follow each other and destroy the edifice of high followership just as the elitist blue tick has been rendered useless here.

People who make sense and have valuable/ quality opinions to share will stand out no matter what

@navneetmathur I hear you. And that's a start for me. Listening more.

@navneetmathur @Saikatd what if we sought recommendations only because we were starved of time? Still a bad idea?

To follow someone randomly and then months later discover that the person has been toxic, will be a waste of time. Rather if someone gives me a list of non-toxic ppl to follow, wouldn't that be an efficient use of time?

Trial & error vs Tried & tested

@silverlightgal @navneetmathur @Saikatd A person can be turn toxic at an given moment. Mastodon ha a better steps to deal with it. Most people are genuine and caring.

So do follow as many people as you can, have as many conversations as possible. Limiting yourself to a list is just an opportunity lost to meet and socialize with a lot more people.

@Saikatd that’s some serious food for thought here!
@Saikatd You are being too hard on yourself. Fine to recommend others you like & choose to follow; but in order to expand the horizons, try making your choices more eclectic. That would also expand the diversity on this platform which comes across as narrower & more straight-jacketed than #Birdsite. Just my two cents.
@Saikatd Thank you for saying this. It means a lot when a popular figure actually says it and actually walks the talk! Let us make this a truly democratized social media.

Hey @Saikatd I agree with you. Let's do away with both "shoulds and should nots"

And let it be. Whatever it is. Not pushing either experiences or expectations. And just explore this. Like a baby does.

@Saikatd I feel it's still good to have closed communities. Say Harry Potter fans wouldn't want LOTR fans in a closed group where they share and discuss HP. It doesn't make the members less aware of the impact and the fan base that LOTR has. Everything doesn't have to be hostile. Members are still open to read more books and new HP fans. Its our troll experience on bird site that makes us feel closed communities shut off others voice.
@bull500 Of course. But if someone is not interested in Harry Potter, they would avoid the group anyway, wouldn't they? The idea is to build inclusivity by design.

@Saikatd yes they should be free to do so as well too. I don't follow HP as much as I do starwars but I'm still free to interact with HP members or join as well or even comment on posts on places like reddit. AFK I have friends as well engaged in both Fandoms.

Yes there are certain groups that are exclusive but it could be because of online/offline hate and abuse. These exists in non virtual life as well.

First is to provide a safe place to interact and slowly the change starts.

@bull500 I believe, building an inclusive community by design, will also make it inherently safe. The only way I will really know, is by being part of something that is inclusive.
@Saikatd if I'm not wrong democracy and a democratic country is something along those lines of design. Yet here we are, it'll take a long time for us all to be accepting of each other and engage constructively.

@Saikatd One more thing is about not repeating the obsession of metrics like followers count.

Rely on and accept organic growth. Stop asking for boosts to build your network.

Discover the fun in reconnecting to people you know from birdsite and let ppl discover you from either before or your content.

In short build a more meaningful network than before and find satisfaction on more intrinsic value like your content drawing people, than the connections you have.

@sandipb Initial boost when you come onto the site is worth giving, beyond that is your choice. U can choose to interact, build new conversations meet new people. U might find that someone U initially followed is not suitable 4 all interactions but is good 4 maybe 1 or 2 or some; U may find interests changing. But important 2 come with an open mind, receptive, non confrontational, leave ur prejudices, privileges behind.. I find myself interacting with a more diverse set vs. twitter @Saikatd
@sandipb Also don't make assumptions - hard to do, but can try... don't jump down ppls' throats, just because they have said something you disagree with/dislike. Ask for clarification. You will find people are far more tolerant, more open, more willing to explain their viewpoints here... But for that we have to be willing and open too, imho @Saikatd
@Saikatd Following you just for saying that everyone is good. On birdsite, I wouldn't follow people with a lot of people simply because they won't follow me back or even engage. Of course, I'm not saying you HAVE to do either, but as a late joiner to Birdsite, I felt the system was already gamed in favour of the early birds.
@Saikatd How about you both following me then? @sanjayuvacha
@Saikatd I literally followed you after seeing different toots from you arguing in different directions on different issues. Most people seem to be either completely left wing or right wing. I’m looking for liberal voices that look at each issue separately rather than by which tribal camp
@Saikatd Birds of a feather flock together. This is largely true and just human nature. People move in herds, socialize in cliques and tend to gang up on new comers, making cost of entry high. It requires a bit of altruism (or incentive) to allow another person into this exclusive space.

@Saikatd We need to transcend this sort of tribal antagonism and follow others, especially those who may not be 'influencers' to beat this hegemony of elites.

Ironically, this is probably the same reason why RW people don't like liberals or rationalists. 

@varkychen Exactly. Had we followed a more inclusive approach, I suspect, we would have much lesser toxicity.Of course, with some toxic folks, you can't do much either way. 🙂
@Saikatd what I observed in this exodus is that people are replicating the same network structure #mastodon that they have build up in birdsite. so they're reinforcing the same birdsite values here minus the trolls.

@Saikatd @milcom

IMO, nobody is taking away that agency, a recommendation is sort of like a tried-and-tested suggestion if you will. Today many of us are deprived of large volumes of spare time and/or energy. Having an FF saves me time & energy to actively look for ppl to follow.

Like in #Film birdsite communities, the FFs helped me discover a lot of cinephiles I wouldn't have otherwise.