PocketsJul 10, 2019

A repeat of my crowd poll from last summer!

Do you view polyamory as your sexual (or romantic) orientation, as something you choose to practice, neither, or both?

I think I ask this question because it is something I'm constantly exploring for myself - what about this do I need vs. what about this do I like?

Bonus question (if you answered last summer or if you are like me and frequently try to take stock of where you are at) - how has your thinking about this evolved over time?

Show threadJerrikJul 25, 2019
@poly_pockets
For me it's an orientation. I'm not monogamous, and that's just how I am, so I don't pretend to be anything else. My first relationship in high school was with a girl who had another boyfriend from her last school and I've just never "got" the whole possessiveness thing. I don't know why people do that. Just like being bi, I don't understand the discounting of half the people on the planet purely based on genetics. If I'm attracted, I'll say something.
Show threadPocketsJul 26, 2019
@Jerrik I imagine you've had difficulty over the years with people not understanding or agreeing with your approach, but I'm a little envious of your clarity and strength of identity with it. Very cool.
Show threadJerrik

@poly_pockets
Luckily I learned at a young age that people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind. You're right that it hasn't always been easy, and for a long time I thought I was broken, and I didn't even know polyamory was a word until I was almost 30, but I've always been honest and that's why I'm still friendly with so many ex's.

Knowing others like me exist has been a life changing discovery, you have no idea how much I appreciate you, just for being you.

Jul 26, 2019 at 7:31pmWeb
Show threadPocketsJul 26, 2019

@Jerrik

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