PocketsJul 10, 2019

A repeat of my crowd poll from last summer!

Do you view polyamory as your sexual (or romantic) orientation, as something you choose to practice, neither, or both?

I think I ask this question because it is something I'm constantly exploring for myself - what about this do I need vs. what about this do I like?

Bonus question (if you answered last summer or if you are like me and frequently try to take stock of where you are at) - how has your thinking about this evolved over time?

Show threadPoly Art KidJul 16, 2019
@poly_pockets Hi Pockets. For me, I very much consider it part of my belief system that I choose for myself. Part of all of what feels right to me and guides me on my journey. It's very strongly tied into my own sense of self determinism. And if it feels right for you I have a hard time seeing a 'want' as any less significant.
Show threadPockets
@PolyArtKid Interesting. It sounds like *choosing* this path and creating a life that feels right has been really important for you - and it kind of blurs the lines between what one might want/need. Do you think there is no circumstance in which you could happily choose monogamy? is there something about poly that you believe to be inherent to you? Or is is about having the agency to choose to follow desires that arise?
Jul 17, 2019 at 5:25pmWeb
Show threadPoly Art KidJul 18, 2019
@poly_pockets there definitely are circumstances in which I'd become effectively monogamous, but it's pretty unlikely I think at this point. Living poly is very important to me, yes. It's inherent to me in the sense that personal freedom and agency is to everyone, I just apply it to my personal relationships and we call that poly. That has become a core part of me and how I live.