hi other trans* folks! please boost this toot!

i have some questions about detransitioning which i'd appreciate your honest input in! i'll define detransitioning here as transitioning from gender A to gender B, then either back to gender A or a gender closer to A than B.

you can complete the survey here: https://freesurveys.org/s/q1f4PjmiPG

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I am hoping someone in here might have advice. I am in a #transfem support group. When I engage in it, it helps me a lot.

The problem is, every time something really bad happens to someone in the group, it sends me spiralling for a bit. And by "really bad" I mean suicide, or people going missing, or etc. Every time I engage with the group for even months afterward, I have these awful waves of grief. It pushes me to disengage, because it feels like the only way to insulate myself from the pain. But distancing myself also hurts, because my support network is otherwise pretty small.

How do I find an emotional compromise here? I need the emotional crutch this group provides, but I also need to be able to recover when that crutch fails.

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Asking all #transfem / #transfemme people: can anyone tell me what it is like to get electrolysis done under sedation? I can see that it is possible, but I want to know if it works / is hellishly bad before I ask for an estimate

Otherwise I will likely continue seeing my clinic that just does numbing shots. It's just going very slowly because I don't get enough time off to do this often

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Hey everyone, I met a neat trans man via substack, who is putting an anthology of stories together, something to provide a means for trans voices and experiences to be amplified and told. He put this together, and I wanted to spread the word. If possible, I highly encourage you to participate! Maybe you know someone who does, please pass this along to them, and feel free to boost as far and as wide as possible :) Here is the project blurb and relevant links:

Trans Kids deserve love! If you are a family with a trans child, or if you’re a friend or educator of trans children, please consider participating in this anthology of stories. Participants are welcome to remain anonymous. A wide range of works will be accepted. Find out more at https://transfriend.substack.com/, or head over to the submission form at https://tally.so/r/n0L6kA to participate.

https://transfriend.substack.com/p/for-trans-families-with-love?r=3khofc&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=email

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How open should I be about being trans at work? I am a programmer in a research part of UChicago Medicine. I would really like to talk about these things with my work friends, but currently the only people who know are the ones who interviewed me and HR. The all know me as a woman and as my chosen name.

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Hi all! I would like to get the reading list I prepared for my dad "peer reviewed". I certainly have mistakes, and I have simplified when I think a point wouldn't be taken well quite yet, but I want to be sure that those simplifications are not horribly problematic

I am definitely aiming to educate them on trans women first, since it is most relevant to me. It should be high overlap with other trans people, though, I hope

https://joplin.oliviaappleton.com/shares/efH31SlAew8oGkcLigLTvt

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Hey y'all, I think I finally have my dad willing to read things about being #trans

Does anyone have recommendations on what to give to him? I want to do my best here

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thinking about getting my facial hair waxed.... i'm finding the always present stubble kinda... dysphoriating? frustrating maybe... idk. like I just don't feel I'll pass with facial hair, or will be more male presenting with even the least bit of stubble...
Not really sure, like I try my best to shave close and with the grain, but it's never enough. and with the grain is HARD to do cleanly without causing infection or ingrown hairs, bah. hot water, steaming, clean blade and hot water on the blade, never enough. If I was rich I'd buy Feather blades (they are INCREDIBLE), astras are fine though I guess...

thoughts?

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Question for #transMastodon (#transTodon ?):

Were any of you able to get a #deviatedSeptum fixed while getting #facialFeminizationSurgery ? I have one that makes me #snore and I am wondering if it's possible to just get them both fixed at once.

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