is cisphobia/heterophobia a thing and is it a reoccurring problem? - feddit.nl

like, i know hating on cis/hetero people for being cis/hetero is a thing, but is it a big problem like transphobia is? like some people have varying degrees on cis/heterophobia hatred like “hating on cis/straight people is bad” to “hating on cis/straight people is just as bad as transphobia/homophobia and as a queer person, i think that cis/straight people are a ‘dying breed’”.

How to get over regret about bottom surgery without killing myself? - programming.dev

I had bottom surgery almost a year ago and I regret it so much. I didn’t say anything up to now I kept getting told that feelings of doubt and uncertainty will get better as it heals, well it’s healed for over a month and it hasn’t gone away. It’s gotten worse! I feel like I’m broken, like part of me is missing. I wish I didn’t fucking do this shit. I miss my dick and balls so much. Don’t tell me that I don’t regret it and that regret is rare. This isn’t the first time I spoke up. I said this shit on Reddit and the dipshits who run r/trans banned me telling me that regret is rare and that I probably don’t regret it, and that the chance of me being not trans is tiny. I explained to those dumb fucks that I 100% am trans, am a woman and that I miss my dick and balls and they got me suspended for 3 days and muted me. I absolutely regret it and I absolutely am a woman. Some days (currently now) I think about killing myself because I know I’ll never be whole again. I just want to get in my car and drive off a gate bridge, and that would be it.

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Is there any hope? - sh.itjust.works

2026 Saw a bunch of states end the ability to update gender markers, with Kansas even revoking driver’s licenses. The attacks from the Right are constant. We are being dehumanized and I just learned what V-Coding is… The horrible things they’re doing to our sisters in Federal Prison… I fear in Trump’s America, we are set to be dehumanized, criminalized, mocked, and sexually exploited. I worry that the fight for trans rights can only end in failure as the public turns on us for being too strange and too small in number to be worth caring about. They call us pedophiles even as more of the Epstein files come out and reveal this is only true of Trump himself. Leaving the country even seems unlikely as we’re not allowed to have passports. Is there any hope that we prevail in the future? Or are we absolutely fucked with the only hope that MAYBE, just MAYBE, Canada allows us to seek asylum. I’m trying to hold on, but I’m beyond terrified and I just don’t see any happy ending for us.

Blåhaj Lemmy - Choose Your Interface

How do you figure out your identity? - Lemmy.World

I know I’m not cis, but that’s about it. I’m AFAB, I would like to appear more masculine, I have dysphoria around my chest and genitals and would like them to be more masculine, but I want to present as a femboy or a twink, I don’t want facial hair or curves and I want a deeper voice. I like the idea of people not knowing what gender I am when they look at me. But at the same time neither she/her not he/him feel right for me, and I’m happier when people use they/them. Part of me thinks I don’t need a label, but at the same time I feel like I need a way do describe and identify myself. Can anyone help? I feel so confused.

Blåhaj Lemmy - Choose Your Interface

Advice for first date with a trans woman? - Sopuli

Hi, I’ve got a date in a few days with a lovely trans woman whom I’ve not met before but chat online and talk with on the phone. I’d like to know if there are any faux paus in general that I should avoid. I have reassured her that I unequivocally see her a woman, that I strongly support trans and LGBTQ rights. For context I’m a bisexual cis man. She’s pre-op but looking to get hormone replacement therapy. She doesn’t seem to have dysmorphia about her nether bits, but does have dysmorphia from the negative social stigma. I didn’t press too much about it as I didn’t want to make her feel uncomfortable. I also shared some personal details to put her at ease about my identity so she knows I’m not just a creep. She very much seems into me though, and is very open to talk sexually as well which I find as a good sign as it indicates very open communication. Thanks for any advice!

Does anyone else feel less dissociated as the gender they weren't assigned at birth? - The Lemmy Club

Hi, does anyone else feel less dissociated as the gender they weren’t assigned at birth and always were? I find I feel more comfortable as a man and that I experienced a lot of dissociation and disconnect as a woman.

Need advice on neice - Lemmy.World

Hey, folks. So to start this off, I’m going to say that I am trying to be respectful, polite, and sensitive. I try my best to live my life in such a way that I never intentionally or unavoidably harm someone. So that said, I just want to apologize in advance if anything I say is insensitive, and with the caveat that I hope everyone understands it is coming from a place of love and respect. I am posting this for my ‘neice.’ She’s my best friend’s step daughter, so I’m not a blood relation, and we’ve only known each other a few years. I’d like to think we’re fairly close, though. Friends in our own right, as well. I’m not going to include any identifiable information, and I’m going to be showing this to her, so if you want to phrase your reply as a reply to her, that would be cool. She came out several years ago as trans, has occasionally gone out dressed as a woman, and gone by her female name (we’ll say Nicole), but in day to day life, she lives as Nick, in full boy mode. I was unaware until last night that she was still in the closet with a lot of people. I knew, her parents know, her ex wife knows. I assumed she was out, and had honestly wondered (and made assumptions, because humans are flawed) that it was an enby situation, or like a back and forth “today I feel like Nicole, today I feel like Nick” type of deal. I’ve been pretty much exclusively using Nick as the name unless she’s dressed as Nicole. I feel really badly about that now. But the thing that gets me, that really hurt me last night, was she telling me now that’s she’s getting divorced, she’s wondering if she should just go back in the closet and not mention it while dating, because dating is hard enough already. It broke my heart. We talked, she always feels like Nicole. She wants to transition, she wants to live as Nicole, as that is who she is. I cried on my drive home. I’m a 34 year old gay cis man, I’m 6’3 and 270lbs. My egg cracked years ago, and I’ve never done a thing about it. I’ll never pass, I’ll never be able to explain to my family. So I’ve just repressed it. I don’t want my undone things to influence the way I approach this situation. I don’t want to push Nicole because she has an opportunity I feel I didn’t and don’t. But I also want her to live her life in the best way for her. I want her to be happy. And when she told me she was thinking about going back into the closet, it hurt something deep inside I didn’t even know was there. All I could think about was that lesbian friend when I was 14 who got sent to the convent for nearly a year, or that stupid Pray Out The Gay bullshit I went to in secret at the mall when I was 16. Or my uncle, who was so terrified of coming out that he lived with his “roommate” for 15 years before they ever said the word gay to anyone besides my mother (who was an ally, and an incredible person. She did not send me to that pray out the gay thing). All of these thoughts, these people from generations before me and from my own that have been unable to live their truths, all of them terrified and shunned, and here Nicole is, having to make the same stupid fucking decisions because of stupid fucking stupid jerks. It breaks my heart. It hurts my soul. I don’t want that for her. I want her to have better. She deserves better. But I don’t know how to help, or what to do. And I am aware that I have a bias here, and that it’s easy to try to live vicariously through someone else, and I don’t want that for either of us. So that’s basically it. I’m not sure what the question is, exactly. But if you read this, and you have any general advice for Nicole or me, please let me know. We live in a fairly conservative state. Her parents are supportive, but both her parents and I are moving about 8 hours away soon. That’s a big chunk of a support network gone. She also has two kids to think about, both under 5. She does have friends, and I believe most of them know and are supportive, but I don’t know for sure.