AITA for saying immigrants should come here legally? - The Lemmy Club

I (19F) have a new boyfriend, “Mark” (18M). He is pretty left-wing. I am a Democrat. He says that no one should be considered “illegal” and we should change the immigration system, but I think the laws are implemented for a reason and they should go back to where they came from. I’m not even a Conservative. AITA?

AITA for trying to reconnect with an old friend? - The Lemmy Club

So, 3 years ago, I had this Brazilian friend “Emi”. Emi was a few years younger than me, so she was 11 while I was 13. She helped me with Portuguese and I helped her with English, and she was like a little sister to me. We talked about the boys she found attractive, our friends, and life in general. Then, she started developing feelings for me and said she liked boys as well as girls (bisexual). I did not reciprocate, and told her I preferred to just be friends because she wasn’t even 12 and I was 13 and someone told me 11 and 13 year olds dating was weird. Anyway, after that, she changed. I tried to get ahold of her again since she deleted WhatsApp, so I went on her YouTube and she seemed excited to see me, saying she had Instagram but ignoring the request for months. Then, she started acting really dry and leaving me on read, so I asked what was wrong. She blocked me, then messaged my alternate account that she wanted me to leave her alone, that we were never friends, that she hated me, and that I should kill myself. I asked her what changed but then blocked her because I didn’t get an answer. She then messaged my friend and blocked her, calling me a dumb dog to her.

Sister's destination wedding affordability - Lemmy.ca

My sister is planning a destination wedding, and the total cost for my Wife and I to attend is $5,000 for just four nights. We simply cannot justify that expense. However, when I told her it was unaffordable for us, she pointed out that we are planning our own family vacation this year. Her argument? “you can’t afford my wedding next year but you can afford a vacation now?”. Am I the asshole for politely declining my sister’s wedding invite? A family vacation is not the same as forking out $$ to go to someone else’s wedding/honeymoon.

Just now, AITA for being depressed and saying “ok” as a response to the girl who is my girlfriend again? - Lemmy.ca

I’ve been feeling a bit depressed and I don’t know exactly why. My (19F) girlfriend Nikki (18F) just told me she loves me. I said “Ok”. Then she said she couldn’t wait to spend time with me and I said “Cool” because I didn’t know how to respond. She then asked if I was alright and I told her I was depressed. She asked if she could help and I said “No but I have Max”. She said she was here for me too and I said “Ok well I know that”. Then she apologized and I told her not to, and that it wasn’t her fault I was depressed.

AITA for "not even giving my girlfriend the bare minimum", as people I know have put it? - Lemmy.ca

So, a while ago, I (19NB/19F) have posted about this girl Nichole (18F). At the time, I was 18, and she 17. However, what happened is that there were personal stuff going on in my life and while I was so happy that Nichole liked me back and was DTF and all this stuff, I was too hung up on an old crush I was head over heels for, Karl (19M). Karl has proven himself time and time again to be a bully who couldn’t treat me right even if I don’t know if he liked me that way, he probably just was using me when he flirted with me. So I moved on from him. After one other girlfriend and I broke up, I fell for Nichole again, and she still liked me and was looking for a partner. Well, I happen to be best friends with Max (20M). He is a year older than me. Way back in like sophomore year, we used to date when he was a girl and I was a boy. Now, I think I like him again, but I respect Nichole and Nichole is monogamous. I am not. I can be in polyamorous and monogamous relationships. Nichole has recently been very depressed around me and I just want her to be happy and can’t take deep conversations or the drama. It just stresses me out and bothers me a whole lot. Max and I have a very special friendship. He even has recently confessed feelings for me and been wanting to take me on dates. We still hang out without the official “boyfriend and girlfriend” title though because Nichole would be upset. Anyway, I have feelings for Max too and don’t quite know what to do with them. We call every day for 4 hours, we just have that kind of friendship. I’ve even been having dreams of calling him and doing our usual stuff, but also cuddling, sleeping with him, giving him hickeys, etc. Stuff that I used to dream about with Nichole but not much with her anymore. Truth be told, Nichole is HOT, but I love Max and his personality, and since he’s a more recent “crush” as a neurodivergent girl, I’m kind of “hyperfixated” on him. I get hyperfixations on people and Nichole used to be mine and while I still like her, now it’s Max who I fixate on. Max and I always call for like 3-4 hours, maybe more, whereas I don’t even call Nichole because I’m too busy with Max. Recently, I’ve even slept over at his house, hung out with him, drank with him, and usually I fall asleep on the phone with him. We call them “long distance sleepovers”. Nichole goes to bed really early though, like 8-9 while I go to bed at like midnight or later, so we never sleep on call. Nichole has talked to me about the whole thing, which I posted about before, and I answered her and then told her to stop talking about it, admittedly, because I didn’t want to deal with extra drama. But someone recently told her apparently, which she repeated to me, that someone who cares wouldn’t silence or dismiss her, but I do care and I don’t think that’s what I did. If you know the anime trope “tsundere”, that’s kind of how Nichole is like now. Or rather, a “deretsun”. Normally, and at first, she acted “deredere” or sweet and lovestruck personalitywise, but then she became upset and super pissy and serious. I want the old Nichole back, not gonna lie. My Nikki. But, again, I love my Maxmax too <3 He’s my best friend after all.

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AITAH for deciding to let HIM come to ME? - Lemmings.world

I (F15) liked this guy (M16) at my therapy group since I was 13 in 2023. He left the group and the group ended with the therapist leaving so I thought I’d never see him again. I got his contact information and he started to like me after a while but he had a boyfriend and they weren’t in an open relationship, so a typical one for teenagers. He broke up with him about a month or 2 ago, and he started to like me. Now we are dating. He has been leaving my messages on “seen” constantly (meaning reading them but not responding), probably because he’s busy. Since I have a bad past with people being cruel to me for texting too much or just being told “can you not text me?” I am scared that will happen with him, so I decided to let him text me first because I’m afraid he might feel bombarded. AITAH? Am I being, like, dramatic? He does this for days, by the way, only responding when it’s convenient or important.

AITAH for writing a selfship fanfic of my character and another character? - Lemmings.world

I (15F) am bisexual (yes, I need to change my profile picture). I watch American Dad and there are two particular characters I am growing fond of: Francine (the mom, since last year) and Avery Bullock (the CIA boss, I’ve seen some posts about people liking him and he’s starting to grow on me romantically. I, of course, acknowledge that these people aren’t real, but I was still very proud of the fanfic I wrote of Francine and my character. However, when I told my girlfriend of 2 years this, who has lately become very opinionated, blunt, and stuff, she told me she didn’t like when I did artwork nor when I wrote and that my fanfiction idea was stupid, especially my new idea with me and Avery Bullock. She said she bet that the creators probably hated my idea too and that they probably hated selfshipping. I have never seen her act like this until recently, so I was really taken aback. I even deleted the fanfic because my girlfriend’s opinion means a lot and she called me weird and cringey for it. So, AITAH for being kinda upset by what she said?

AITAH for previously wanting to be her friend but not anymore? - The Lemmy Club

Back in 2023, I (M then bigender) used to make content on YouTube, and one of my biggest fans was a Brazilian girl who I’ll call “Emi” (short for Emilia). She would always comment something positive on my videos. Since I was born a girl, bigender, and Emi was Christian, I’d just let her call me a girl. Anyway, we became quite close and we would tell each other about our family life, people we found attractive, boyfriends, crushes, etc. I helped her with English and she helped me with Portuguese. I can write some Portuguese now without needing a translator but not fluently. Well, she began to have feelings for me and questioned being bisexual, but I felt uncomfortable dating a barely preteen as a young teen because someone told me it was iffy. Eventually, we lost contact in like 2025, and she deleted WhatsApp, where we texted, so I messaged her again on YouTube. She seemed very excited to see me. I asked what social medias she had, and she said Facebook and Instagram. Oddly enough, Emi wouldn’t accept the request, so I messaged her on Instagram. About 7 months later, in November 2025, she finally accepted the request but started acting dry, only saying “Yes” “no” “I don’t know/IDK”, and “maybe”. I asked her what was wrong and if we were still friends, but she blocked me. My friend “Carmen” (F), who was following Emi, asked her why I was blocked. She went on an alternate account, sent insults and threats to me, saying we weren’t friends anymore, I was being annoying, and that I should stop texting her (which I already did). She also told me to disappear, shall we say, and told my friend that I was just a dumb dog.