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Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors?

Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors? - The Lemmy Club

So, I’m embarrassed to write this, and as shitposty as this sounds, it’s true. So, my (22F) friend, “Oskar”, (24M) got invited to a party for his dad’s friend’s daughter (15F) “Maria”. There were some adults there but mostly teens, Maria’s friends. There was a dancefloor, and Oskar shouted “EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!” according to what he told me, and started shaking his ass and twerking in front of the girls. He got kicked out of the party and everyone was pretty annoyed with him, saying it was disgusting and Maria said he was being a pervert. Even if he was just being silly, it wasn’t received well. Was he TA for twerking in front of teen girls? My friend Kylie (18F) thinks that was weird and I would never twerk like that but I don’t do much “vaguely sexy” stuff anyway.

clare (she/her)2d ago

aita for asking a daycare/learning center if they still hired?

https://lemmy.cafe/post/33654187

aita for asking a daycare/learning center if they still hired? - Lemmy Cafe

so when i was 14, my middle school had this career fair. i always got childcare on the career tests I took, so I decided to explore those options. one of the jobs for kids my age was this daycare/learning center where you could help kids as young as 14. however, i called this one woman who worked there one evening, asking if they still hired. she sighed heavily, saying in an exasperated and rude tone, “you can’t just ASK someone if they hire and interview them!!” when asking is the only way I could find out. “besides,” she continued, “we already filled all the positions in april, so just go away.” am I in the wrong or was that unprofessional of her? I liken her behavior and responses to that one grumpy friend you called for the 1000th time at 3 a.m.

Wendy 2d ago

AITA for letting an old poetry book from my father get potentially stolen as a seven-year-old?

https://thelemmy.club/post/47065140

Wendy 6d ago

WIBTA if I decide to break up with my boyfriend instead of staying by his side?

https://thelemmy.club/post/46843249

WIBTA if I decide to break up with my boyfriend instead of staying by his side? - The Lemmy Club

I (22F) honestly don’t know whether or not I’m going to break up, I’m still deciding. But I’m poly and have this fiancée Aiko (23F), but I also have this one boyfriend Will (23NB, he/they). Will is obsessed with his boyfriend Dave (26M) and will constantly spam him and text him many times a day. He will also have deep discussions with him, according to Will, but will only have surface-level conversations with me. People have also commented before that it sounds like a friends-with-benefits situation, and he claims to love me and all that stuff and kisses me whenever we meet or see each other in a therapy group for people in their 20s, but aside from that, we don’t even really see each other and he’s always making excuses/reasons to cancel plans due to his depression or business, or just not feeling like it. He said he was sorry, but he keeps doing it, and I guess I just wanna prove that I can take it like an adult and be by his side even when times are rough and be the “best”, most loyal girlfriend I can be for him, but I don’t really know. AITA?

Cyclops Mar 22

#AmITheAsshole for insisting we skip/fast forward through the credits?

Basically, my brother-in-law and I got into a dispute earlier this evening. The short version is I insisted we fast forward through the credits, but he and my wife insisted we just let them roll and watch the scene at the end. I insisted that we could just fast forward, because we're not in a theater. Furthermore, I made the point that I hate sitting through 10 minutes of credits to watch 30 seconds of extra movie that doesn't contribute anything to anything. IE, if it were important, they wouldn't make you wait till the end of the credits to watch it.

One thing led to another, and my brother-in-law started telling me all about how my father-in-law would sit through the credits all the time and read every single name because it meant something to him, and then maybe I should stop being such a prick about it. Okay, those weren't his EXACT words, but it definitely had that kind of tone to it all the same.

So yeah, am I an asshole?

I guess, at best, I came from a different generation. The credits hit, and everybody leaves. That's just how movies worked when I was younger. But not anymore. Thanks a lot, marvel. 😛

FelizTheCat Mar 16

AITA for saying immigrants should come here legally?

https://thelemmy.club/post/46015467

AITA for saying immigrants should come here legally? - The Lemmy Club

I (19F) have a new boyfriend, “Mark” (18M). He is pretty left-wing. I am a Democrat. He says that no one should be considered “illegal” and we should change the immigration system, but I think the laws are implemented for a reason and they should go back to where they came from. I’m not even a Conservative. AITA?

Becky (she/they)Mar 11

AITA for trying to reconnect with an old friend?

https://thelemmy.club/post/45731368

AITA for trying to reconnect with an old friend? - The Lemmy Club

So, 3 years ago, I had this Brazilian friend “Emi”. Emi was a few years younger than me, so she was 11 while I was 13. She helped me with Portuguese and I helped her with English, and she was like a little sister to me. We talked about the boys she found attractive, our friends, and life in general. Then, she started developing feelings for me and said she liked boys as well as girls (bisexual). I did not reciprocate, and told her I preferred to just be friends because she wasn’t even 12 and I was 13 and someone told me 11 and 13 year olds dating was weird. Anyway, after that, she changed. I tried to get ahold of her again since she deleted WhatsApp, so I went on her YouTube and she seemed excited to see me, saying she had Instagram but ignoring the request for months. Then, she started acting really dry and leaving me on read, so I asked what was wrong. She blocked me, then messaged my alternate account that she wanted me to leave her alone, that we were never friends, that she hated me, and that I should kill myself. I asked her what changed but then blocked her because I didn’t get an answer. She then messaged my friend and blocked her, calling me a dumb dog to her.

ordinarycanuck Mar 10

Sister's destination wedding affordability

https://lemmy.ca/post/61604927

Sister's destination wedding affordability - Lemmy.ca

My sister is planning a destination wedding, and the total cost for my Wife and I to attend is $5,000 for just four nights. We simply cannot justify that expense. However, when I told her it was unaffordable for us, she pointed out that we are planning our own family vacation this year. Her argument? “you can’t afford my wedding next year but you can afford a vacation now?”. Am I the asshole for politely declining my sister’s wedding invite? A family vacation is not the same as forking out $$ to go to someone else’s wedding/honeymoon.

Viktoria (They/She)Mar 5

Just now, AITA for being depressed and saying “ok” as a response to the girl who is my girlfriend again?

https://lemmy.ca/post/61360858

Just now, AITA for being depressed and saying “ok” as a response to the girl who is my girlfriend again? - Lemmy.ca

I’ve been feeling a bit depressed and I don’t know exactly why. My (19F) girlfriend Nikki (18F) just told me she loves me. I said “Ok”. Then she said she couldn’t wait to spend time with me and I said “Cool” because I didn’t know how to respond. She then asked if I was alright and I told her I was depressed. She asked if she could help and I said “No but I have Max”. She said she was here for me too and I said “Ok well I know that”. Then she apologized and I told her not to, and that it wasn’t her fault I was depressed.

Viktoria (They/She)Mar 3

AITA for "not even giving my girlfriend the bare minimum", as people I know have put it?

https://lemmy.ca/post/61270026

AITA for "not even giving my girlfriend the bare minimum", as people I know have put it? - Lemmy.ca

So, a while ago, I (19NB/19F) have posted about this girl Nichole (18F). At the time, I was 18, and she 17. However, what happened is that there were personal stuff going on in my life and while I was so happy that Nichole liked me back and was DTF and all this stuff, I was too hung up on an old crush I was head over heels for, Karl (19M). Karl has proven himself time and time again to be a bully who couldn’t treat me right even if I don’t know if he liked me that way, he probably just was using me when he flirted with me. So I moved on from him. After one other girlfriend and I broke up, I fell for Nichole again, and she still liked me and was looking for a partner. Well, I happen to be best friends with Max (20M). He is a year older than me. Way back in like sophomore year, we used to date when he was a girl and I was a boy. Now, I think I like him again, but I respect Nichole and Nichole is monogamous. I am not. I can be in polyamorous and monogamous relationships. Nichole has recently been very depressed around me and I just want her to be happy and can’t take deep conversations or the drama. It just stresses me out and bothers me a whole lot. Max and I have a very special friendship. He even has recently confessed feelings for me and been wanting to take me on dates. We still hang out without the official “boyfriend and girlfriend” title though because Nichole would be upset. Anyway, I have feelings for Max too and don’t quite know what to do with them. We call every day for 4 hours, we just have that kind of friendship. I’ve even been having dreams of calling him and doing our usual stuff, but also cuddling, sleeping with him, giving him hickeys, etc. Stuff that I used to dream about with Nichole but not much with her anymore. Truth be told, Nichole is HOT, but I love Max and his personality, and since he’s a more recent “crush” as a neurodivergent girl, I’m kind of “hyperfixated” on him. I get hyperfixations on people and Nichole used to be mine and while I still like her, now it’s Max who I fixate on. Max and I always call for like 3-4 hours, maybe more, whereas I don’t even call Nichole because I’m too busy with Max. Recently, I’ve even slept over at his house, hung out with him, drank with him, and usually I fall asleep on the phone with him. We call them “long distance sleepovers”. Nichole goes to bed really early though, like 8-9 while I go to bed at like midnight or later, so we never sleep on call. Nichole has talked to me about the whole thing, which I posted about before, and I answered her and then told her to stop talking about it, admittedly, because I didn’t want to deal with extra drama. But someone recently told her apparently, which she repeated to me, that someone who cares wouldn’t silence or dismiss her, but I do care and I don’t think that’s what I did. If you know the anime trope “tsundere”, that’s kind of how Nichole is like now. Or rather, a “deretsun”. Normally, and at first, she acted “deredere” or sweet and lovestruck personalitywise, but then she became upset and super pissy and serious. I want the old Nichole back, not gonna lie. My Nikki. But, again, I love my Maxmax too <3 He’s my best friend after all.