Mastodawn

AITAH for trying to be friends with my ex?

AITAH for trying to be friends with my ex? - feddit.org

About the title: This is before I knew what she was saying behind my back and after I thought she’d changed. I am only realizing now she was always a bully. So my (19F) ex (21F) and I used to date when I was 16FtM and her 17-18F. Even though we broke up and she said we could still be friends and I was a girl when we were friends, she continues to use the wrong gender and pronouns, calling me a guy and “he” to justify her extreme hatred for men. She also gave me severe panic attacks and nightmares. She also has a narcissistic personality as she talks about others behind their back, bullies people, makes fun of their disabilities, tells them bad things about them, tells them threats, and throws them out/blocks them and makes them seem like the bad guy when she has “no use” for them. She said we could still be friends when she broke up with me, so I tried that. She just up and ghosted me one day, and she had a link in her bio to a server, so I went to check it out and make some new friends out of boredom. She was talking bad about me, sending a GIF of a girl choking herself, saying she’d rather die than talk to me, telling me I’m a “gross incel”, and telling her friends that I should do bad stuff to myself. She also said “Men when you hate and want nothing more to do with them” and continues calling me a man and “he” to justify her extreme hatred for men, especially trans men, which she had even when we broke up but she apologized and went back to it. I was a trans boy, as I said, when we dated, and after we broke up, she started spouting transphobic rhetoric and saying I did bad things to her that I never did. She was the one doing all the bad stuff behind my back. She also recently said to her friends that she lied to me and that she never loved me and just dated me for laughs but told people before that I did that to HER. Well, I left the server, blocked her, her new boyfriend who for some reason friended me, and all her friends.

Eddie [any]6d ago

AITAH for being an adult with a crush on someone 2 years younger?

https://feddit.org/post/28517864

AITAH for being an adult with a crush on someone 2 years younger? - feddit.org

I (19F for simplicity) have a crush on this one girl (17F) I used to date about 2 years ago, let’s call her “Emma”. Now, I’m certain she doesn’t have feelings for me back while we still talk sometimes even though she flirts with me sometimes, and I don’t even know if she likes girls. Anyway, it’s just a little crush, and I’m in an open relationship so the girlfriend (F18) I have knows about it. I probably won’t plan to do anything as Emma isn’t even ready for a relationship until she graduates high school, that’s why we broke up. This one girl I also used to date and tried to befriend before I found out she was using me, Audrey (F19) also said I was a bad person for being an adult and liking someone who is still under 18. She then said it was weird because I was an adult and she wasn’t even out of high school, but she also told people that I was “attracted to a high schooler” and making it sound like the girl I liked was a freshman who was only like 15 or something. So, AITAH for my slight crush on a girl I used to date because she’s not even out of high school?

Wendy Apr 7

Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors?

https://thelemmy.club/post/47224403

Is my friend TA for twerking in front of minors? - The Lemmy Club

So, I’m embarrassed to write this, and as shitposty as this sounds, it’s true. So, my (22F) friend, “Oskar”, (24M) got invited to a party for his dad’s friend’s daughter (15F) “Maria”. There were some adults there but mostly teens, Maria’s friends. There was a dancefloor, and Oskar shouted “EVERYONE LOOK AT ME!” according to what he told me, and started shaking his ass and twerking in front of the girls. He got kicked out of the party and everyone was pretty annoyed with him, saying it was disgusting and Maria said he was being a pervert. Even if he was just being silly, it wasn’t received well. Was he TA for twerking in front of teen girls? My friend Kylie (18F) thinks that was weird and I would never twerk like that but I don’t do much “vaguely sexy” stuff anyway.

clare (she/her)Apr 5

aita for asking a daycare/learning center if they still hired?

https://lemmy.cafe/post/33654187

aita for asking a daycare/learning center if they still hired? - Lemmy Cafe

so when i was 14, my middle school had this career fair. i always got childcare on the career tests I took, so I decided to explore those options. one of the jobs for kids my age was this daycare/learning center where you could help kids as young as 14. however, i called this one woman who worked there one evening, asking if they still hired. she sighed heavily, saying in an exasperated and rude tone, “you can’t just ASK someone if they hire and interview them!!” when asking is the only way I could find out. “besides,” she continued, “we already filled all the positions in april, so just go away.” am I in the wrong or was that unprofessional of her? I liken her behavior and responses to that one grumpy friend you called for the 1000th time at 3 a.m.

Wendy Apr 4

AITA for letting an old poetry book from my father get potentially stolen as a seven-year-old?

https://thelemmy.club/post/47065140

Wendy Mar 31

WIBTA if I decide to break up with my boyfriend instead of staying by his side?

https://thelemmy.club/post/46843249

WIBTA if I decide to break up with my boyfriend instead of staying by his side? - The Lemmy Club

I (22F) honestly don’t know whether or not I’m going to break up, I’m still deciding. But I’m poly and have this fiancée Aiko (23F), but I also have this one boyfriend Will (23NB, he/they). Will is obsessed with his boyfriend Dave (26M) and will constantly spam him and text him many times a day. He will also have deep discussions with him, according to Will, but will only have surface-level conversations with me. People have also commented before that it sounds like a friends-with-benefits situation, and he claims to love me and all that stuff and kisses me whenever we meet or see each other in a therapy group for people in their 20s, but aside from that, we don’t even really see each other and he’s always making excuses/reasons to cancel plans due to his depression or business, or just not feeling like it. He said he was sorry, but he keeps doing it, and I guess I just wanna prove that I can take it like an adult and be by his side even when times are rough and be the “best”, most loyal girlfriend I can be for him, but I don’t really know. AITA?

Cyclops Mar 22

#AmITheAsshole for insisting we skip/fast forward through the credits?

Basically, my brother-in-law and I got into a dispute earlier this evening. The short version is I insisted we fast forward through the credits, but he and my wife insisted we just let them roll and watch the scene at the end. I insisted that we could just fast forward, because we're not in a theater. Furthermore, I made the point that I hate sitting through 10 minutes of credits to watch 30 seconds of extra movie that doesn't contribute anything to anything. IE, if it were important, they wouldn't make you wait till the end of the credits to watch it.

One thing led to another, and my brother-in-law started telling me all about how my father-in-law would sit through the credits all the time and read every single name because it meant something to him, and then maybe I should stop being such a prick about it. Okay, those weren't his EXACT words, but it definitely had that kind of tone to it all the same.

So yeah, am I an asshole?

I guess, at best, I came from a different generation. The credits hit, and everybody leaves. That's just how movies worked when I was younger. But not anymore. Thanks a lot, marvel. 😛

FelizTheCat Mar 16

AITA for saying immigrants should come here legally?

https://thelemmy.club/post/46015467

AITA for saying immigrants should come here legally? - The Lemmy Club

I (19F) have a new boyfriend, “Mark” (18M). He is pretty left-wing. I am a Democrat. He says that no one should be considered “illegal” and we should change the immigration system, but I think the laws are implemented for a reason and they should go back to where they came from. I’m not even a Conservative. AITA?

Becky (she/they)Mar 11

AITA for trying to reconnect with an old friend?

https://thelemmy.club/post/45731368

AITA for trying to reconnect with an old friend? - The Lemmy Club

So, 3 years ago, I had this Brazilian friend “Emi”. Emi was a few years younger than me, so she was 11 while I was 13. She helped me with Portuguese and I helped her with English, and she was like a little sister to me. We talked about the boys she found attractive, our friends, and life in general. Then, she started developing feelings for me and said she liked boys as well as girls (bisexual). I did not reciprocate, and told her I preferred to just be friends because she wasn’t even 12 and I was 13 and someone told me 11 and 13 year olds dating was weird. Anyway, after that, she changed. I tried to get ahold of her again since she deleted WhatsApp, so I went on her YouTube and she seemed excited to see me, saying she had Instagram but ignoring the request for months. Then, she started acting really dry and leaving me on read, so I asked what was wrong. She blocked me, then messaged my alternate account that she wanted me to leave her alone, that we were never friends, that she hated me, and that I should kill myself. I asked her what changed but then blocked her because I didn’t get an answer. She then messaged my friend and blocked her, calling me a dumb dog to her.

ordinarycanuck Mar 10

Sister's destination wedding affordability

https://lemmy.ca/post/61604927

Sister's destination wedding affordability - Lemmy.ca

My sister is planning a destination wedding, and the total cost for my Wife and I to attend is $5,000 for just four nights. We simply cannot justify that expense. However, when I told her it was unaffordable for us, she pointed out that we are planning our own family vacation this year. Her argument? “you can’t afford my wedding next year but you can afford a vacation now?”. Am I the asshole for politely declining my sister’s wedding invite? A family vacation is not the same as forking out $$ to go to someone else’s wedding/honeymoon.