AITAH For being mad my son wants to change his name? - Sopuli
I’m a 52-year-old father, and I’m honestly at my wit’s end here. My 22-year-old
son wants to change his last name to “Carrington,” and it’s driving me
absolutely crazy. You see, he was named after me, and now he wants to throw that
away just because he doesn’t like our family name. He’s been talking about this
since he was 15-17, but I foolishly believed it was just teenage angst that
would fade away with time. But here we are, years later, and he’s still
hell-bent on becoming a “Carrington.” Why? Well, for one, he’s never liked me or
my last name, and he’s not close to my side of the family at all. My parents are
in their 90s and still alive. I have siblings, but my son never spends time with
them, and neither did I ever let my son visit them. The last time my son saw my
parents or my siblings was when he was 10 years old, and that was it. But still,
that doesn’t give him the right to change his last name, let alone to that of
some character name he likes. Because he watched some soap opera called
“Dynasty” and fell in love with their last name. I mean, seriously? Changing his
name to a fictional character’s name from a TV show sounds absolutely ridiculous
to me. I’m really struggling to understand this whole situation. We don’t have
any Carringtons in our family, and it feels like he’s disrespecting our family
lineage and his ancestors. It’s like he’s trying to cut ties with his own
heritage, and that just breaks my heart. If he had a valid reason, like adopting
his mother’s maiden name, changing his last name to his wifes name or for
religious reasons, I would probably be more understanding. Heck, if he was
transgender and changing his name to better reflect his identity, I would fully
support him. But this? It feels like he’s going through some sort of identity
crisis and hates himself for no good reason. I’ve suggested that he consider
professional help or therapy to sort through his feelings and understand why
he’s so adamant about this change. But he brushes it off, saying he’s sure about
this decision. I’m his father, and I can’t help but feel like it’s my business
too. After all, I named him, and our family name has been passed down through
generations. Now, it seems like it’ll stop with him.I want him to know that I
still love him, but I won’t call him “Carrington.” To me, he’ll always be my son
with the name I gave him. Maybe I’m old-fashioned, but changing his name to
something so fictional just seems immature and crazy to me. My son also has no
respect for me whatsoever. He doesn’t like me, care about me, and finds me
annoying. He straight up said, ‘I couldn’t give a fuck less about you or your
opinion. The fact that you think I should care proves how utterly stupid you
are.’ He doesn’t consider his mother’s brother or cousin his ‘family’ either,
and he truly doesn’t give one fuck about what I feel about this decision. TL;DR:
My 22-year-old son wants to change his last name to “Carrington” just because he
watched a soap opera and liked their name. I think it’s ridiculous,
disrespectful to our family lineage, and shows a lack of understanding about his
own identity. I won’t call him “Carrington” and hope he’ll come to his senses
soon. Any advice would be appreciated.
valetty
Cendriya
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