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AITA for not speaking to a life long friend because I want an apology?

https://lemmy.world/post/38369577

AITA for not speaking to a life long friend because I want an apology? - Lemmy.World

AITA, on April 29th, I noticed a FB post from my BFF, it’s theme was about “leaving a party early”. My BFF notoriously falls asleep early and drifts away from any gatherings at his house. In the comments section, I posted a photo from about '92-'93, of him sleeping on a couch. I’m in the photo behind the couch. Two other friends are at each end of the couch. Either sitting on the armrest or leaning on it. No booze, drugs or anyone flipping the bird. IMO: very innocent photo. A couple of days after my photo comment, he sent at least 3 text in rapid fire mode. Essentially “screaming” at me to delete that photo. It took a brief moment to get onto FB and delete that photo. But, those texts all came in faster than I could take care of the situation. Keep in mind, it’s on HIS FB page, he had full control to delete the photo himself. Then, he could’ve “yelled” at me via text/phone call. IMO: he owes me an apology for the way he “screamed” at me via text. We haven’t said more than “Hey.” at any group gatherings since the episode. AITA?

Nov 5 at 3:15pmWeb
Show threaddanekraeNov 5

He may, if you tell him how you feel.

“I was wrong to post that photo without consent, but you went over the line and really hurt my feelings.”

If the problem is “only” this, try. Friends don’t grow on trees.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
He’s practically a tree… Skinny, 6’2".
Show threaddanekraeNov 5

US and England with their foot fetish… You mean 1,88 meters 😉

See, I try to help, and I’m being a dick at the same time. It’s difficult to make friends.

Edit: I didn’t downvote BTW, and I don’t thing anyone is the asshole.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
A tree none the less.
Show threadbrucethemooseNov 5

AITA?

I mean, that doesn’t matter.

Don’t think of it like “who’s the asshole here,” not over this. Just talk. Friends are way more important than judgements like that.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
My personality is too rigid. (BPD). I always talk myself into needing that apology, first.
Show threadbrucethemooseNov 5

Fair.

But don’t dwell on it! Just talk, and talk some more. I promise, you will be happier that way.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
Ha, don’t “dwell” about it. More than 6 months already 🙄
Show threaddanekraeNov 5
Starting now.
Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
Nice try.
Show threadTh3D3k0yNov 5

I mean, kinda?

As the others have said legit friends are hard to come by. Especially those from 30 years ago. I’ve gotten in more than one real screaming matches with friends and we got past it, being this sensitive over a couple of text messages if all they said were “delete” is a bit extreme.

If there is additional context to this obviously it changes

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
The text were very demanding. Sorry I didn’t save them to get exact phrasing. My biggest gripe is that HE could’ve deleted it himself and addressed the issue after.
Show threadTh3D3k0yNov 5

I get you, but at the same time when I deal with people that I feel did the wrong thing, I like to have them fulfill the action to solidify the correction. Like at work having people fix the status of actions despite the fact I could have done it and it actually takes longer to tell them to correct it.

It is also possible this person isn’t aware they could remove it from their own page? I don’t have a Facebook any more so I dunno.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
I would guess the later. However, I don’t consider that a good excuse.
Show threadChetManlyNov 5
I am assuming you are an adult here, but this is some high school level shit. Why are you running to the internet over something so trivial?
Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5
Adult is questionable. Hence, my appearance in this group.
Show threadSaneMartiganNov 5

YTA slightly. Ya mate might’ve over reacted but I thought we got over posting and tagging embarrassing photos. I think you should apologise. Ya mate probably doesn’t want more attention on going to sleep or slipping out of parties either.

You could stay righteous about it and lose a friend.

Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 5

Won’t lose him.

That photo is nothing to be embarrassed about. I’d actually consider it wholesome. And he was not tagged.

Yes, it was on His page. That’s different than tagging someone. I know he already had a rule against tagging.

Show threadSaneMartiganNov 5
I never really like social media for this posting of people business. The specifics of where it was posted are less relevant than that it was posted, when the dude would’ve preferred it hadn’t. What’s wrong with a direct message or email?
Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 6

No. It’s literally “Social MEDIA”… the photo is very benign.

My friend had 2 options.

A) Turn OFF comments. Thus, I never could’ve added photo.

B) Delete photo himself, then admonish me afterward.

He went with C). And, IMO, that’s BS.

Show threadSaneMartiganNov 6
Yeah, definitely YTA. Your whole attitude about this is mean spirited. You crossed a friends boundary and aren’t taking any responsibility for it.
Show thread😈MedicPig🐷BabySaver😈Nov 6
Thanks for your input.