@rapscalorie It's not my place to wade directly into the middle of this discourse, but I suspect that the feeling of being alone on here that I have seen expressed by many POC accounts I follow comes from a situation where they're not literally alone, but they are the only POC in many of their affinity groups. The one Black Blind guy expected to be the avatar of Blackness to the Blind community on here, where back on Twitter there might have been an entire Blind POC sub-group. Ditto hardware modder, ant enthusiast, Python language dev, etc. Expecting people to make friends (which is what makes you feel "not alone") with each other just because they're Black (or worse, non-white) is messed up, and reduces their potentially vastly different experiences of racial marginalization into a single flat feature that somehow also becomes their only defining quality to the white people in the room. They might occasionally commiserate with each other about shared experiences of racism, but that doesn't make a solid foundation for a friendship.
It is true that some of the #FediSoWhite discourse can feel like it's erasing the POC who are here (FWIW I mainly see posts veering into this territory from white "allies" vs. actual POC, some anger-fuelled accusations being the exception). But the sentiment of loneliness, which I think comes in part from feeling constantly on the spotlight as the only POC member of one's hobby group/profession/etc.) is definitely reflective of a real experience, which is definitely caused by systemic racism, from active and passive racism within the fediverse to active and passive racism outside it.
