Your problem is with social media algorithms, not activists. When you're really in relationships and communities, your feed fills up with lots of actions both online and offline. When you're not, it just shows you what bothers you the most.

And yes, lonely, severely isolated, abandoned, traumatized, or sick people come to social media to vent. That's how a lot of people use social media. So maybe ask yourself why it bothers you so much when people CC you, compared to venting about any other social issue.

I know a doctor on TikTok whose platform is centered around his son, who died in a drunk driving accident. Most of what I've seen from him is about his son's death, asking people not to drink and drive. I don't see actions, probably because I'm not an anti-drunk driving activist.

I don't see his content trying to educate others as "not encouraging mobilization" or "lots of information but no action." He's trying to get people to stop drunk driving. We're trying to get people to stop infecting each other with a deadly and disabling disease.

I don't take his content personally because I don't drink and drive. Now imagine what the speech would be like for him, a man who tragically lost his son, if everyone drank and drove. And supported others to do so as well. That's what's happening with disease mitigations right now.

It's almost as if social media is about sharing information and emotions. Something people can decide to take action on or not. Wearing a mask is an action. Hear the sound of "It's not a problem when they do it, it's only a problem when I do it."
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You can’t be in community with people and refuse to have conversations with them when a problem arises. I know there are people who need to hear this, so let me be the messenger of this bad news: you can't complain about people if you haven’t expressed the difficulties you’re having with them. And don’t get me wrong, no one’s mind-reading. Believe me when I say that if you’re not addressing that problem directly with the person, we don’t want to hear about it. You can’t bring it to us if you’re not willing to communicate directly about the issue. Keep it in the right place, in the back of the situation, okay?

People engage with community in very different ways, and community is central to what I do as a social worker. That’s the whole idea. I recognize that people have different approaches and reasons for wanting to form community, and that’s completely okay. But again, you can't be in community if you have poor communication. Because, as you can see, communication is essential to community. It’s literally in the word, sweetheart. Please be really honest.

It’s manipulative to use this language to avoid truly being in community with others. If the goal is to have community, connect with people, and make space for others, if you really don’t have the energy for it, there are ways to show that and set boundaries about how you present yourself. You can carry the weight of your own problems, and if you find yourself in a community with people who are unable to do that, then you’re in the wrong community.

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The goal of gender liberation is to achieve gender liberation for all. Insisting that people who challenge traditional gender roles must identify as nonbinary, trans, or queer is not truly radical. Limiting our imagination and falling into identity policing occurs when we insist that those who break gender norms must necessarily identify outside the traditional gender binary. Straight cis men and women also have the right to challenge and break gender rules.

As queer and trans people, we must resist the temptation to become the gender police.

True gender liberation involves allowing free expression of our full humanity and precious uniqueness, without succumbing to pressure to hide parts of ourselves. We can achieve this no matter our gender identity or sexual orientation.
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There is a strange feeling and one that I am even afraid of and it is the thought that I am going to kill myself without wanting to. It is something difficult to explain and maybe it seems that it has no correlation, but sometimes it feels more autonomous to be able to decide your own death when you realize how interdependent you are with people.

Dependency does not seem negative to me, in fact, it seems to me one of the most obvious ways that we need mutual support and that we need each other. And given these times of eugenics and ableism, although it would be necessary to see when these have not been times like these, realizing that there is a large part of your life that does not depend on you feels heartbreaking. Especially when you have been chronically ill and your body and mind have had to grab onto life and cling to it.

Detachment from life is paradoxical. What happens to me with real life is that I want to live it and all the reasons that are given to me for not doing so are eugenic and ableist and capitalist. But at the same time, to not enter into a spiral where the pain is more
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