I am thankful! sadly my non-techie friends all stick to league because it ‘works’.

And thinking about joining dota’s toxic community that is even remotely like league’s toxic community makes me break out in cold sweat ._.

Usage as a relative percentage to total population would be more useful as a graph… This is mostly just a population map as absolute numbers are not a good comparison…

They should overhaul their fckin anticheat so I can finally play it again on my Linux machine ._.

Fair, but then blanked assuming this, sounds like the wrong approach, But I am not about to teach you how to act on the internet; you do you. Before your accusation, there was a nice explanation that helped me understand, thanks for that.

Oohhh we are both interpreting this differently! Okay now I get and yeah youre right. Then I misread this.

I understood this as ‘10 years ago it was like that and you’d have to eat it, and now, people can just tell them they are wrong because of the progress in the field’

I didn’t think of it as "I can finally tell people who told me it was being rash 10 years ago to suck it.

Makes more sense tbh :/ sorry for misinterpreting this.

But not everyone is a troll who has a different view of you, I just understood it differently

I am struggling to understand why approaching any topic with calm and critical thinking instead of potentially rash action based on potentially temporary feelings is toxic?

If you’re internally dating to be queer for a long time, that clearly is not a temporary situation. If you then talk to someone and they throw that statement, of course, they can go f themselves.

My critique is that this phrase is very general and not healthy to just put out there in a general context. Words mean things, in general. This is not a phrase like arbeit macht frei or something that is obviously used in bad faith. The phrase is, in my opinion, reasonable.

I am sharing that, in my experience, if I had used this approach on everything my friends or family have said, I would not be where I am today, and I definitely regret a LOT of decisions that I thankfully avoided because people told me to go slow and think critically before acting. or “Not acting on a potentially temporary feeling”.

If my experience is unhealthy to you, so be it, but it’s not toxic to tell you what or how I have made positive experiences hearing this phrase. To me, especially how it’s drawn here the character with the stamp is being toxic. Dismissing without asking someone who is calmly saying something. Depict the saying character in a dismissive or hostile way? Fair point.

I used to be in the queer community more, but was trying to get away from the internet in general after experiencing just … general hostility to any challenge to any kind of established thought or trend.

With this context, I would also agree with the meme. And obviously, in your situation, encouragement would be much better. I was also in a situation of being dismissed, and I believed the people saying these things too.

But I also remember friends of mine appealing to my critical thinking, like: “Okay, maybe think about this some more instead of doing the first thing that seems like you want to do”. I wouldn’t be here if I just dismissed all those critiques as well, just because they are phrased as in this meme…

What exactly does this phrasing not apply to? It is phrased as a blanket statement, and that’s what I don’t think is healthy. If this said “your gender is for sure just a temporary phase,” and someone stamped that as wrong, I would agree with the stamping.

You might be right that I am just splitting hairs, but I find the phrasing generalistic and toxic. I think a blanket statement, like the one shown here, without any other context, should not be taken as gospel. That is a critique of me personally.

I also absolutely agree with what you are saying, but only in that context that you are describing.

… Now that I am reading this back I might be overinterpreting internet culture, I am not into memes as I used to so maybe the context is more obvious than I am used to…

As in? “Your current feelings might be a temporary state of mind” is a sensible thing to say. Dismissing that in a general context, as this meme does, is ,IMO ,not healthy. I think it’s a slippery slope argument. In addition to what I wrote before, it also seems like a really easy way to dismiss any critique about sudden courses of action.

This is a really bad approach as a blanked statement :/ Yes a phase can be permanent (I got out of my ‘its temporary’ mindset as well and now know its permanent), but this is not a general rule.

Relationship not going perfectly? That may be permanent or just a phase,but you should definitely not assume just because you suddenly have a drop, that it is permanent! Most of life goes through highs and lows, especially in social contexts.

This is, IMO, a seriously toxic approach. “I’ve had a disagreement with something with my life long best friend, now I am angry with him so I will immediately end the entire relationship because of this temporary issue without putting any work into resolving misunderstandings.” This sounds so entitled I can’t even. Put effort into issues, see if you can resolve temporary feelings or problems. Find out, calmly, if they are temporary or permanent for yourself.

Don’t make rash decisions under uncertainty. Don’t make permanent decision based on temporary situations. Think first.