i am still reeling over what i’ve heard about sexual harassment in the workplaces in the last 12 months. when ppl tell me stuffs in confidence i am exposed to an industry that i thought i knew but i didn’t. and i know sexual harassment is experience not just by femmes but also by men too and i have heard it all and i wrote a piece with actionable items and checklists for ppl: manager bystander, ic bystander, receiver of harassment, checklist for whether it is harassment, and checklist for men cuz it doesn’t just happen for dudes.

https://nombiezinja.com/word-things/2026/3/8/workplace-sexual-harassment-is-making-a-comeback

living through history-defining moments humbles those w less of an ego, personal strifes and struggles seem insignificant by comparison. i’m seeing kind ppl reduce their own needs and support for themselves in face of global despair:”what do i have to be sad about when people are facing war & destruction”

i’m just not sure that’s the healthiest thing to do (even though i also engage in this pattern). somehow our homework becomes: finding personal and microcosmic meaning in our private sufferings and joy, taking brief moments of solace, when empires are falling and people are dying.

years ago i took on a writing project that involved reading primary resources like personal diaries throughout the sino-japanese war. when bombs were falling all around shanghai the author of the journal maintained regular life. those embroiled in it find moments of life and so must we.

i have like...thoughts about heroku stuffs and i wrote about them and i find myself almost...incapable of posting. i shared it with close folks first, group chats, dms. i edited it, over and over and now there is a secret section of notes with basic auth over it. and i almost dont want to share, it's so intimate. but here it is. there are thoughts in here that i could pull into six other pieces, about start up post acquistion dynamics, centralization vs decentralization things, engineering practices, innovation and culture stuffs but a;lksdj;a hey u know what? here it is.

https://nombiezinja.com/word-things/2026/2/8/heroku-is-not-dead

post quitting my job to recover from burn out i noticed every week i absolutely MUST have 1-2 days where im just Off

this might sound normal but i literally did not do that for all my adult life.i was 24/7 On and Productive. it was how i was able to be a successful career person And single parent

today i wake up and realized neither brain nor body wanted to address a single todo, obligatory administrative or creative. instead of pushing through i just rested

one key skill i gained in recovery is being aware of my exhaustion & own needs

i ignored alarms like these b4 thats why i burned out

someone snapped a photo of me getting frisked going through security before speaking at the city hall public hearing for 105 Keefer luxury condo project proposed by Beedie

so i was ready to talk shit to developers cuz the project not only displaces ppl it’s also bad at making money

also what a name for a greedy developer, Beedie llllllllolllllll