@not3ottersinacoat valid complaint. There is a certain level of experience/expertise required for these installers.

Having said that, its open source! As a former colleague would say, "now its your problem too".

I cannot speak for any of the BSDs, but I know there's a avoidance (albeit adversarial at times) of explaining things which are documented/described elsewhere. And, for many BSDs, adoption is a non-goal. Its a hobby. Use it if you want to...or don't!

This, of course, makes things difficult for a newcomer...but as a once newcomer myself, I can assure you you'll know so much more about your system if you try. Its not downhill, but the view is amazing when you get a little higher. But, its a journey, for sure.

Anyways, if you're interested, I'd be happy to offer pointers if you get stuck...as long as you're willing to take "what have you found so far?" as a frequent answer.

I do feel like this sort of quiet resistance is absolutely the least one can do...

Not slander. Not libel. Probably.