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i started talking to my ex again and idk how to feel
ways to cope with breakup and relationship stuff?
i’m gay and he and i are both in our early 20s. hes addicted to gaming and barely wanted to talk to me. he got mad and “didn’t wanna talk to me every day or 24/7” but then he said he was sorry for saying that. i recently broke up with him and i kind of miss him because in retrospect, our relationship may have actually been healthy. sure, we didn’t have the same interests and such, and he wanted me to pay attention to his but rarely did to mine, but what if he was actually a really good boyfriend? he did say he never loved me when we broke up, but he could have just been mad. he even apologized but i blocked him. i’m trying to get over him but i do wonder if he was actually a great guy and not just a great friend, but a great boyfriend too. we get mad sometimes, after all. all of us. and i didn’t text him 24/7 like he said nor every day but he would be playing games or leaving me on read anyway and barely speaking. once he said I could speak to him every day, I did, and he barely talked to me and said he didn’t know what to talk about. but he always had a good word for everyone, still does considering we just broke up :) please, i’m going through a tough time so no criticism/attacking against me or anyone, i’m not in the mood or ready for it yet, i just need comfort.
is it good/common/whatever to leave your romantic partner on "read" a lot?
i just broke up with my ex and he used to do that a lot while we dated so i was wondering how common that was? i mean trying to start the conversation or saying something important, not just saying “bye” or something, and I don’t mind my friends leaving me on read I think but not my partner, idk why.
update: we broke up
i’m gonna try doing better now, he and i broke up after all of the stuff that went on. idk, he told me he never loved me when we broke up and that he “already moved on” but on his alt that i blocked he was all “wait im sorry!!”. i told him that it will take some time for me to move on and forgive his actions, if they need to be forgiven. he never had anything to say when we talked and i always had to start the conversation. whenever we chatted and i liked something, we would just be like “cool”, “cool.” Or “K cool” Not even “Cool!” Or “Cool :)” idk
some stuff happened but i'm so much better now!!
so I (22m) am a gay (possibly bi?) trans man. after a while of questioning my gender and being gender-fluid, I decided I was still gender-fluid but primarily transmasc/male. at 17, I didn’t really talk to my crush, but I really liked this dude Alex. I was a senior, and i graduated not really talking to him. by the time i was 19(f), I contacted him again as I met him through a friend. i didn’t tell him I liked him. besides, I liked someone else by then. alex had a girlfriend already anyway. he broke up with her about a year and a half later, and while I started to catch feelings for him, I decided to give him some space. after about 6 months, he asked me out and I said yes. now, some things put me off, like how Alex still identifies (identified?) as straight despite me now being male. he’s working on it, though. he showed a lack of interest in my hobbies but expected me to play games like Fortnite with him even when I told him I didn’t like it. we both like Minecraft, but he doesn’t have time to play that, he says, and I respect that. he expected me to look at his tiktoks and instagram reels but would say “I’ll do it later” when I sent him some of mine. but he’s getting better. he used to be a bit hurtful and dry when he was stressed, sometimes he would blame me for things or would just be plain dry. but we took a break, so that’s good. he also once said that straight people are “normal” and gay people are less normal but still “better” than lesbians, who are “boring”. he is still coming to terms with liking me, a trans guy who recently came out as primarily masc. he apologized for the way he said it, though. plus, even though I was hurt, we sometimes get stressed or depressed and hurt even the ones we love. I’m glad we could work things out. know that if you’re going through similar stuff, you can work things out too if it’s meant to be <3
when is "cool" fine and when is it rude?
when replying that way in any way, on text or actually just saying “cool”. my friends say cool a lot and I really don’t mind it and my partner says it too but some people have thought it was rude and I had a friend say “that’s what I say when I don’t give a damn”.