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queer clusterfuck, beautiful being, "remotely attractive Shitpost-Lord", keeper of timestamps

Autor der "neurodivergenteste[n] Nachricht, die [jemand] seit Ewigkeiten bekommen [hat]"

flirting? Okay, but be aware that a) I'm a man and b) I'm aromantic
boosting? go ahead, I'm capable of closing tabs when things annoy me

pronounshe/him, whatever neopronouns you want to practise using, NOT they/them
profile pic byKaitlin Bruder
labels that applywhite, queer, aro, aroallo, bi, kinky, non-partnering, trans
languagesgerman, english, some toki pona, what little french I remember from school
I joined a random Blue Prince stream this morning and got playfully bullied into making cookies + sending photos in their discord by the chat - and they actually remembered our conversation from hours ago, asked about the appointment I had told them about and praised me for doing laundry as well after getting back. What a wholesome turn of events <3
actually bookmarking that post so I can make it a thread next time my brain decides that poetry needs to happen NOW. which implies sticking around more I guess. Oh well, we'll see

You blink into existence.

You're breathing.
Your body is moving.
You hear music.

You're dancing.

You're dancing,
And you're feeling,
And for a second you know:

You're becoming yourself.

urgh, why do I feel the urge to write poetry now?? my dearest brain that's not what we agreed needs to get done today..
calling pronouns professional nouns will never not be funny to me and that's the one thing I'll gladly admit is probably a character flaw of some kind
You're allowed to have rotting on the couch time, of course. Just be aware if it serves as a break from anything, it's a break from being in control. Which is a reasonable thing to want, but doesn't solve the issue of you brain needing to recover.

You need to remember that what neurotypicals think of as rest is stressful to our brains. Existing on the couch for hours watching something you're only semi-engaged in is not going to let your brain recover.

There's two things your brain could need and it's either stimulation or complete lack thereof. If everything is too much and sitting in silence doesn't help, what you need is something engaging that isn't your source of stress. That's the only way I've found to actually recover from things that aren't overstimulation.

Your brain will fight you because it seems like a waste of energy you don't have. It's very important that you drag yourself to the interesting thing - internally kicking and screaming if you must.

So a couple of days ago I had a long talk with a friend about relationship violence and why I am disappointed in them and oh my fucking god, it made me realize that people in general just don't have any clue how to act when they suspect a friend being in an abusive relationship.

So here's what you do:

Stay in their life. Check in with them regularly.

But most importantly, do not - and that is crucial - do not question or judge why they are in this.

Being trans is so much work. I'm going to have to call some random person on Monday because my deadname got called as a witness for something. So now I'm not only loosing an entire day to go to a different city for this bloody thing I never asked to be involved in but also have to take the time to call and explain this to someone (and hope I don't have to do ADDITIONAL extra tasks)

Hey, if the system makes you suffer? I strongly recommend you read this short piece by @WeirdWriter about returning some of the suffering to the system. It really warmed my day.

https://caneandable.social/@WeirdWriter/116287307838318731

Robert Kingett (@[email protected])

New post: The 'Paperwork Flood': How I Drowned a Bureaucrat before dinner. https://sightlessscribbles.com/posts/the-paperwork-flood/

Cane and Able