I don’t quite get what you’re implying but as I’ve said I wouldn’t be hanging out with an 18 year old in the first place.
I wasn’t necessarily looking for ways to “do something about it”, the question was more about my own thoughts. And I don’t see having an open conversation about potential dangers / concerns and worries as “controlling”, we already had a good talk about it, went very well. This isn’t his first meaningful friendship outside his hometown, he never left his hometown - we live in our country s largest city & all the good schools are here; he still lives at home like most of the students raised in the city.
I literally never stated I’m trying to control anything.
I think you’re misunderstanding me. My issue isn’t him going out often, I’m happy about that, it’s a good thing. My concern is that it’s almost exclusively with this guy, and it’s worrying to me that they spend so much time together. I’m this guy’s age and I can’t imagine regularly hanging out with someone so young. It’s just odd and gives off bad vibes. And my son always had autonomy, that’s not what this is about.
Maybe I’m projecting my own feelings but being basically this guy’s age I can’t imagine hanging out with someone so young. It just gives off bad vibes.
Age gap friendship - opinions? - Lemmy.World
My wife & I have an 18-year-old son. He started university in September,
studying medicine. There he met this 41-year-old man - a classmate, and they
became really good friends. This man has just started university now at this age
because apparently he was born poor and in the first half of his life was
focused on making money, but medicine is a dream of his. Son has always been an
introverted, shy, socially awkward kid with little friends, but now goes out
often. Honestly my wife & I are uncomfortable, and we can’t help but side eye
the dude.
