Several weeks ago I was walking through a local park, chatting with someone I thought of as a friend about my autism. Apparently I wasn't proper autistic like her relation just "modern" autistic like everyone is nowadays and that I should just get over any trauma that I'd accrued over the past 50+ years.
The "chat" ended with me hurriedly leaving my so- called friend, shouting back over my shoulder "I am autistic" and then sobbing on a park bench for five minutes.
Although self-diagnosis is absolutely valid, I'd just like to mention that I have been diagnosed twice by two separate clinical psychologists, 10 years apart with the process involving various tests, my medical history, school reports, a 30 page personal history, interviews with family members as well as a long and in-depth consultation with the psychologist. My son is also diagnosed autistic as well as ADHD and I have several cousins who have also been diagnosed. I also, when young, required, but never received, way more support than I do now. In my teens, I was selectively mute for 2 fucking years!
Traits evolve, support needs change, masking and learned behaviour hides a huge amount of shit. Strangely, I am not the same autistic person I am now compared with the autistic child I was over 50 years ago. Please stop comparing us to children that you know!
Anyway, in a recent Substack post, the lovely Lyric Rivera covered exactly what I was trying, in vain, to put across to my ex-friend.
https://neurodivergentrebel.substack.com/p/why-the-labels-high-functioning-and?r=5df6nv&triedRedirect=true