RE: https://furry.engineer/@ihaveahax/116463617522334805

One of the reasons it’s hard for me to bring up certain topics, like anything sexual, with friends is because I really don’t like to overstep boundaries and make someone uncomfortable, but on more than one occasion I did that while I wasn’t told it was an issue for a while.

It makes me want to doubt many other things. I don’t know if something I keep doing is actually bothersome if it wasn’t made extremely clear upfront.

For an example, I used to shower pretty late at night. It turns out this kept waking up some people on the floor below. I feel bad for doing it so much, but nobody told me this was an issue for a while, so I had no idea I was doing it.

I realize it’s not easy to confront someone, I am definitely very averse to it. But the sooner an issue gets brought up, the better.

I think I found the issue with what was killing my nixos-unstable-small builds. My "all NixOS systems" derivation makes the Nix process use around 31 GB RAM. This PC has 64 GB, so it worked fine without the small branch, but some other high-RAM build collided with this and triggered the OOM killer.

My setup is probably weird, I have a custom derivation that builds all my NixOS systems all at once, in part to simplify building everything, and to parallelize builds as much as possible. But I never realized just how much memory Nix uses for this.

For the record, I use Lix, but I doubt upstream Nix would be different.