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Alright.
Deep breath.
This post has been brewing in my head for a while.
Let's talk about the pitfalls of presentation when you're new to transition as a transfem. It's a fraught topic, but I think it will help some of y'all.
Disclaimers.
One, I have my own biases. Some things I dislike and therefore will not judge them fairly. But that is, in part, the point. I am not trying to convert you to dressing the way I do. Goddess knows nobody should EVER dress the way I do ;3 this is to convince you to look at your own implicit assumptions and learn to pick what works for you.
Like, to get personal and petty for a second, I knew a trans girl who just *hated* black lipstick (which I love and occasionally use) and the way she would talk about it was very upsetting. She'd backpedal when I would say I liked the look. But it sucked to hear.
Relatedly and more importantly: if it works for you, then it's good. Nobody has to like your presentation other than you. If it doesn't work but you want it, then it does work!
Anyway, on to the meat. I'll go in neat sections, one per Toot. If you find advice that you think is good, Boost away :3