🐑 Have you ever told someone "you're valid"? No! *sprays water* Bad brand!

Have you ever made a blanket statement that everyone is valid? No! *sprays water* Bad brand!

Neither of those is affirming anyone. They're no more caring about anyone else than George H.W. Bush reading "message: I care" from his margin notes. What they are are self-declarations of a pro-trans brand identity you want, and a demand that trans people validate this.

And if you say such things while also doing endless discourse about all the ways and reasons so many actual trans people are fake? They're just pure cruelty, there is nothing remotely nice or even neutral about them, they're just cruel and you're a kind of not good person if you do that.

It's really simple: Is there any way or sense in which I am less woman, less female, less at home in womanhood, than any cis woman is?

Then I am not "valid" because I am not a real woman.

I need to be what Nikki Hiltz is so proud to be that none of you will ever let a trans woman be: an actual woman, who belongs in womanhood as a real woman, no matter what I like to be called. (Watch me break barriers by going into the men's room.)

You all have the same goal as JK Rowling (and you canceled her for it): to make me desist from my transgender insanity of claiming to actually be a real woman, actually be female, stop expecting everyone to cater to my delusions like they're true, and learn to accept myself as a transgender-identifying male who's free to be feminine if I want, so long as I understand it can never actually make me a woman.

You know what we see around these days? Women you've all convinced are men desperately wishing they could be women. You've clearly informed them that's not possible and that being trans can never accomplish that because trans people only do some unrelated "gender identity" thing that has nothing to do with that, nothing to do with what men and women, boys and girls, males and females are. We were that before last decade, because everyone from queer-affirming sex ed to Gay-Straight Alliance to Rocky Horror Picture Show to Ace Ventura: Pet Detective to The Crying Game made it 100% clear to me that a trans woman is not a woman. And there were many others. For maybe 5 years we basically disappeared and just became trans women. But then you all fixed that, you got the lid back on that ill-advised transgender thing and twisted transness into just another weapon to beat us back down into the cis binary.

And this won't give a single one of you pause about anything other than maybe a moment of helpless searching for the inclusive words to correct me that no, actually, I don't want to be a woman because that's not possible, no I don't want anyone to treat me like a woman anytime it's worth caring about because that would be unreasonable. etc.

I hope y'all got something more than just a person-to-brand transition in exchange for your souls.

(Reminder that we do not accept apologies, i.e., ritual self-absolution, only atonement. This one's easy, it involves an unfulfilled promise, namely validity, so atonement is as easy as making good on it. As soon as you deliver on me being valid, i.e., every bit as much a real woman as a cis woman is, we're cool. Many of you have assured us that's easy, so it shouldn't be difficult for you to deliver. I'd hate to think that was also cynical brand behavior.)

🐑 Already just typing drafts, more basic words that Firefox spellcheck somehow doesn't know (is Firefox spellcheck a form of Newspeak? discuss):

• masculinize (it knows feminize)
• operant
• von
• Anglosphere

🦌 Purple numbers popping up over our head as we read over and over

here's my important anti-fascist take

substack link

🦌 A lot of people who damn well know they're guilty avoided voting on this or lied about their position, because we have seen most trans people, and "allies" supported by trans people in these takes, consistently take positions incompatible with the first option, positions that can only justify letting trans people change our identity documents (e.g., birth certificate) on the basis of options 2 or 3, or else they take position 4 and pretend documents like that all say gender when they all say sex.

🪽 Gonna say upfront: My point here is that you need to look at reality as it is, not as you'd like it to be, to be effective. If you're counting on support that's not there, things will go very badly. But if you have a reality-based appraisal of the situation, you can at least have a fighting chance.

These numbers have only shifted 5–10 points over the past 3 years, it's been bleak for quite some time and we've been trying to raise the alarm but no one wanted us to spoil their happy fantasy that everyone already supports us and only extremist losers no one likes and a few rich elites support anti-trans policy. Bracketed numbers added by us from the linked data.

A new Pew Research Center survey finds that majorities of U.S. adults favor or strongly favor laws and policies that:

Require trans athletes to compete on teams that match their sex assigned at birth (66%) [49% strongly favor, 7% oppose, 8% strongly oppose]
Ban health care professionals from providing care related to gender transitions for minors (56%) [42% strongly favor, 12% oppose, 14% strongly oppose]

The survey also finds that more Americans support than oppose laws and policies that:

Require trans people to use public bathrooms that match their sex at birth, rather than the gender they identify with (49% favor or strongly favor, 26% oppose or strongly oppose) [36% strongly favor, 14% strongly oppose]
Make it illegal for public school districts to teach about gender identity in elementary schools (47% favor or strongly favor, 34% oppose or strongly oppose) [35% strongly favor, 20% strongly oppose]

In turn, adults are much more likely to oppose than favor policies requiring health insurance companies to cover medical care for gender transitions (53% vs. 22%). [36% strongly oppose, 10% strongly favor]

Notice the consistent pattern that people strongly against us outnumber people on our side to any degree. It wasn't quite that bad 3 years ago, but public opinion was already heavily tilted against us on these tangible questions. Support has only looked high if you ask "are you a tolerant person? y/n" rather than anything tangible, or pretended "I want trans people to go away as an issue and never have to hear about them again" is a pro-trans position.

Also: Teenagers are more transphobic than adults now, and both are overwhelmingly transphobic:

• Adults: 33% say you can be a different gender from your assigned sex vs. 65% say you are your assigned sex/gender always and forever
• Teens: 30% say you can be a different gender from your assigned sex vs. 69% say we're all fake (49% vs. 50% among teens who support the Democratic Party)

Also note that 48% of teens and 45% of adults say they're comfortable using gender-neutral pronouns for people, so great work by everyone on team "you should call people what they want," you got exactly what you wanted: a third of supposed allies who will just call you what you want to be nice are steadfast that all trans people are fake.

We're going into this with very little real support, because most trans people preferred to just imagine they're already popular and almost no one opposes us, propping up that fiction by certifying every transphobe totally not transphobic if they're just willing to be a two-faced glad-hand who will tell you whatever you want to hear when prompted. Also by pretending apathy is support, but apathy works both ways.

Finally, we can't think of any other demographic so self-destructive that they look at a poll that asks whether they're important for politicians to care about or a distraction from more important things and decides the former is against them and the latter supports them. 21% vs. 77% in this poll Erin Reed told y'all shows 77% on our side against anti-trans laws. Please do read that poll and compare responses on tangible policy and treatment of their kids to the 67% who say they support trans people living as we wish, it is bleak and you should calibrate your perception of professed allies accordingly. Anything past 33% is the minimum number of professed allies taking that anti-trans position. You will see a pattern emerge that about a third of professed allies are outright enemies. A similar fraction are somewhat hostile, but willing to let us have some concessions, or just plain don't care and simply want the whole issue of trans people existing to go away.

Plan accordingly.

🦅 The Texas "gender identity fraud" bill says that I'm using "gender identity" as an excuse to factually misrepresent my sex (not gender), e.g., by having an ID that says I'm female, or by claiming to be a woman without disclaiming that I'm actually just a biological male who identifies as a woman.

What is your actual position on that bill?