How can I find my zest for life, love and dating again at 33 after surviving the peter pan lifestyle in my 20s?
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How can I find my zest for life, love and dating again at 33 after surviving the peter pan lifestyle in my 20s? - Personal Lemmy
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I’m 33, hardly super old, but I feel like an old man sometimes. I lived a real
peter pan lifestyle through my 20s and some of my 30s. Partying every weekend,
setting up dates with girls from apps during the week, often multiple times per
week at my ‘worst’. Had big issues with commitment and I’m guessing still do,
but I enjoyed myself and never thought much about the consequences of doing that
for so long. I was abusing benzos ranging from 40-100mg diazepam daily during
this time (7 years total) and my drinking became a real issue a few years back
causing me lose interest in my sport, pack on a ton of weight and become
miserably depressed all within a year or two. The girl I was seeing exclusively
watched me drink myself from 75kg to 120kg. I decided to get sober from the
benzos and booze in early 2025 and tapered off under the supervision of my GP
over the course of 3 months. That sucked balls worse than anything else in my
life so far, and I still have some residual anxiety from how much it rattled me.
I’ll never touch another benzo. I can drink still, although I usually take 5-6
pints on a night out with my buddies once a fortnight and call it at that. My
life is pretty boring now, just working and trying my best to earn a good living
and hopefully some promotions as I improve myself. I picked up BJJ again last
year, I thought it’d be a shame for me not to eventually earn my black belt
after 10 years invested in the sport already. I’ve lost 30kg and am back
competing again. Just last week I decided to try my luck on the dating apps with
new photos after having absolutely no luck 20kg ago. Now I find myself with
plenty of matches, and a few girls starting conversations with me who I find
attractive, but I just can’t bring myself to want to take them out on a date. I
can’t really even put my finger on why I don’t want to, god knows I don’t have
anything better to do of a Friday evening. Is it nerves? I’ve had experience
with women but it’s been over a year now since I last got laid so maybe that’s
it. I dunno man, I don’t want to sound like I’m bitching about what on the face
of it isn’t such a bad hand to be dealt, but I miss the excitement of
possibility that I felt when I was younger and anything could happen. Are any of
you dudes able to relate to any of this? And if so what advice do you have for
me? Is it as simple as turn my brain off, arrange a date, and see how that
feels? Tldr - mid 30s guy, former life enjoyer, ex benzo/alcohol abuser caum
boring ass guy not feeling the excitement in life despite a pretty decent
situation. Wants to want to get involved with women again but can’t find the
motivation and is seeking advice to do the same submitted by
/u/PossibilityNew4767 Originally posted by u/PossibilityNew4767 on r/AskMen
Question for Swiss residents: How common is professional upholstery/sofa cleaning here?
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/16052
Question for Swiss residents: How common is professional upholstery/sofa cleaning here? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
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Back in the EU, I ran a professional sofa cleaning and textile protection
business for over six years. Now that I’m settling in Switzerland, I’m trying to
understand the local market habits. How often do people here actually hire
professional cleaners for their sofas or mattresses? Is it something common
(like an annual deep clean), or do people usually only do it when there’s a
major accident? Also, for those who have used these services in Switzerland:
what do you value most? Fast drying times, eco-friendly products, or long-term
stain protection (nanotechnology)? I’d love to hear your experiences as
consumers to see if it’s worth relaunching my project here. Thanks in advance
for the help! submitted by /u/JadedKaleidoscope498 Originally posted by
u/JadedKaleidoscope498 on r/Switzerland
Men who’ve tried newer dating apps like Luvstor, what actually makes you stay on one app?
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/15720
Men who’ve tried newer dating apps like Luvstor, what actually makes you stay on one app? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1rybajh/men_whove_tried_newer_dating_apps_like_luvstor/]
submitted by /u/believer_69_ Originally posted by u/believer_69_ on r/AskMen
What do you do while you wait for Claude to finish?
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/15620
What do you do while you wait for Claude to finish? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/ClaudeCode/comments/1ry01n9/what_do_you_do_while_you_wait_for_claude_to_finish/]
You know the cycle: think a bit, write a prompt, wait for Claude, check the
result, repeat. While I wait for Claude I find I can’t do anything that useful
or I forget where I was and the context switch is jarring. What are you doing
while you wait? submitted by /u/48K Originally posted by u/48K on r/ClaudeCode
Who would be more important and who would you always put first ..Your mum or your committed partner and why?
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/15106
Who would be more important and who would you always put first ..Your mum or your committed partner and why? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1rg2e0o/who_would_be_more_important_and_who_would_you/]
submitted by /u/throwradrpri Originally posted by u/throwradrpri on r/AskMen
Google AI gave me the wrong answer to a simple question, realized it was wrong, and then corrected itself — all in the same response.
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/14531
Claude Code doesn't show when you're in 2x mode, so I made a status line that does
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/14501
Claude Code doesn't show when you're in 2x mode, so I made a status line that does - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/ClaudeCode/comments/1rv6r4q/claude_code_doesnt_show_when_youre_in_2x_mode_so/]
Originally posted by u/karanb192 on r/ClaudeCode
How do I be in a normal relationship? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1rv8uz9/how_do_i_be_in_a_normal_relationship/]
As the title says, I have no clue what I’m doing any more. I came out of a 10
year marriage where I was more of a caretaker than a spouse. I tried the online
dating thing, but wasn’t finding anyone I felt was worthwhile. Then I cross
paths with this girl I’ve known for 20 years… we always had a thing for each
other but NEVER acted on it because we were both married. We’re both going
through divorces now, so we started to hang out. Sex is absolutely amazing and
we connect great on a personal level. Last night was the first night staying the
night with her due to child custody stuff and we don’t want the kids to know
quite yet. We both told each other “I love you” last night. Here’s my problem…
all I know how to do is be married… Living together, seeing each other everyday…
I have no idea how to progress a relationship without smothering her… submitted
by /u/thewardedone1 Originally posted by u/thewardedone1 on r/AskMen
What would the world be like if all women vanished from Earth tomorrow?
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/13987
What would the world be like if all women vanished from Earth tomorrow? - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/1rtzyf2/what_would_the_world_be_like_if_all_women/]
submitted by /u/a_great_guy655 Originally posted by u/a_great_guy655 on r/AskMen
Cascade of A.I. Fakes About War With Iran Causes Chaos Online
https://lemmy.durstig.online/post/13973
Cascade of A.I. Fakes About War With Iran Causes Chaos Online - Personal Lemmy
Original Reddit post
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submitted by /u/Actual__Wizard Originally posted by u/Actual__Wizard on
r/ArtificialInteligence
