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Cw: Abuse

In regards to Kendra (Clothes closet person)

I haven’t put a statement out on this because it’s been something that has been hard to deal with and process but after last night I feel it needs to happen. I am not gonna speak on others who were also hurt but I can tell you at least 5 other people have been abused and harmed by this person and the person keeps attempting to find new circles and involve themselves in events and community spaces where they are not welcome.

After Normandale I found comfort and a relationship with someone y’all know as Kendra or (clothes closet person) during the time of Normandale my best friend was in the hospital and I felt alone after experiencing that night. We became close after that point, before we didn’t know each other well so I new very little about them. During our relationship I was warned of past partners who had been harmed but I ignored warnings from friends and believed they had changed.

It started with small things for me such as why I was off work late and slowly cutting out my friends who they didn’t like but in the last month or so together it escalated to telling me I was the reason for my best friends health declining and that it was happening because I wasn’t at their house enough (Kendra), anytime I wasn’t spending time with her was something that was harming my friend according to (Kendra) and if I wanted to talk to others or see friends that weren’t her and him together it was my fault.

It became extensively abusive to the point they than would message me saying my friends health was bad or he needed a friend to get me to come over to their house. I would come over in good faith and on more than one occasion cozy would than tell my friend to leave or get him a ride home and force me to stay their because they were upset I ruined that persons day. None of this is true and me and that friend were actually on some of the best terms as friends we had ever bone on at that point.

Once I started to pull away and say I wanted to see someone else Cozy started to cause any harm they could to friends or people I cared about, they would take my best friend to events and than yell at him and leave him in a park for an hour+ alone because of how there health was doing. If he had any memory issues it was his fault and she made sure he new that, she caused harm to several people in this way but those stories are not for me to share.

It became so much for me that I was hospitalized on 2 seperate occasions because of a hereditary blood disorder I have that was being affected from Kendra’s actions, when this would happen (both times with them) they would have me drive them to the bar and than drive myself to the hospital alone for the night. People tried to talk and help them through an accountability process but they denied and acted as though they had done nothing wrong, they have been asked to not go to events and have continued to show because I as well as others hadn’t taken this public until this point.

I hope by doing this it can work towards them removing themselves from spaces and for people to know in the future not to befriend this person. There is several other story’s but some are more personal and include what was harm to several other victims so I will leave those out of this as those are not my story’s to tell. After being called out at the vigil and than on Twitter last not for showing up to a vigil they new ahead of time several victims they had previously harmed would be at, they deleted there Twitter rather than taking any steps towards accountability yet again.