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ConeSep 20, 2025
@yuhline unless you say otherwise the account in screenshot looks like impersonation of you - due to blue dot trying to look like verification icon and the bio not noting differences from your main account (e.g. fan page or personal not work account etc). Have blocked it. Say "report it" and report will be done.
ConeSep 10, 2024
Irene ZhangSep 10, 2024
This is the only way towards equal pay for women. https://social.vmbrasseur.com/@vmbrasseur/113110399417468052
VM (Vicky) Brasseur (@[email protected])

Europe to End “Salary Secrecy”: Employee Salaries to Become Public by 2026 The law came into force in June 2023, but its implementation will be progressive depending on the number of employees in the company until June 2026. https://fikku.com/111920

VMB Social
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
So don't shame folks for not having kids or deciding the 4B movement is for them - instead look at global & societal economic inequality and the burdens placed on women and low income parents (and children as those suffering from the deprivation at the family level) and recognise that having no or 1 child might be response that prioritises the reality for the people who are here - instead of insisting on a hypothetical when there is reason to believe the actuality would have big issues.
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024

Folks whose parents had great communication or great incomes (or both might) might not see issue.
And it is not strictly "guys splurging on themselves" - it is as, hopefully is amply clear from thread, guys spending scarce resources needed for family stability and wellbeing on personal luxuries - without communication & agreement being secured.

Those well-off may assume presence of resources or agreement seeking by partner that makes stuff like a bike a non-issue - that's not true for all.

Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
I.e. even an economy a lot more agriculturally based (2022 data for Cote d'Ivoire apart from gold & petrol features cocoa beans, rubber & edible nuts as big exports https://oec.world/en/profile/country/civ ) has a system for "guys may splurge on themselves" - which seems to look like social disapproval of trading yams except to support key expenses for your kids.
Cote d'Ivoire (CIV) Exports, Imports, and Trade Partners | The Observatory of Economic Complexity

Find the latest trade statistics and economic complexity data for Cote d'Ivoire.

The Observatory of Economic Complexity
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
There is an interesting example of the same issue of men splurging on themselves - but outside a European context. It is from the Cote d'Ivoire (Ivory Coast) and found in Banerjee & Duflo's book Poor Economics on pages 125/126 which is they sum up as "Thou shalt not sell your child's yam to buy new Nikes" - yams being a crop grown by men but which societally is not meant to be used for commerce except to pay for children's education or medical care - not for personal luxuries for a guy.
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
The unreasonable support is that it is unreasonable to expect formerly colonised peoples to support a system that props up the former colonisers perpetually - and it is unreasonable for everyday householders in historical empires to stick to an imperial standard of living - that racist colonialism could sustain via cheap commodities & jobs for colonisers in the colonies - without sorting out national inequality.
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
As well as sexism - racism is normalised in traditional white patriarchy. This both harms men directly who are targets (this article is on young Black men disproportionately being struck down by COVID while struggling via exceptional individual effort to overcome systemic disadvantage https://www.propublica.org/article/how-covid-19-hollowed-out-a-generation-of-young-black-men ) & normalises unreasonable support.
How COVID-19 Hollowed Out a Generation of Young Black Men

They were pillars of their communities and families, and they are not replaceable. To understand why COVID-19 killed so many young Black men, you need to know the legend of John Henry.

ProPublica
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
Instead a template of an unaccountable but rich patriarch gives men a normalisation of having children while perhaps a sense of failure when not rich enough to easily meet the subsequent responsibility - without the analysis to locate the issue as being other richer people rather than themselves, or their family, or women or immigrants as the party at fault.
Show threadConeAug 21, 2024
So the law did not bring men to account for being unaccountable petty tyrants & essentially domestic terrorists. Society is not great in offering good male role models - an unaccountable patriarch was built in until widespread female employment & educational opportunities became norms ( to get how bad it was in US only 50yrs ago see https://eu.usatoday.com/story/news/factcheck/2020/10/28/fact-check-9-things-women-couldnt-do-1971-mostly-right/3677101001/ ). When times are hard or things precarious the role model that is needed is about seeing folks are taken care of & collective improvement.
Fact check: Post detailing 9 things women couldn't do before 1971 is mostly right

Some women could serve on juries, get an Ivy League education and take contraception before 1971. But access wasn't equal to those, or 6 other points.

USA TODAY