I wasn’t aware you wanted a list of everyone woman I’ve ever met. I’m not going to provide that, as it’s insane. That’s why I simply mentioned just the most recent. I also didn’t say anything about the entire female population in the world, that’s a bunch of spin you made up in your head. Stop being so sensitive and trying to make things out to be worse than they are. I don’t know you, nor was I thinking about you when I made the post; you don’t need to take it personally.

I guess… maybe I just know a bunch of really motivated women. None of them spend time one sites like this, They do shit.

I have. The most recent woman I saw was my sister, who does literally all the things I mentioned, and has probably never been on reddit. She might not even know what it is.

probably voting for Democrats and aren’t likely to take them at their word.

What are they going to do, just start busting people’s knees? I’m trying to think of what they could do to stop me from voting, that would lead to the cops being called for assault. I’m coming up empty.

The only days I get things done are days when I have 0 meetings. If I have even 1 meeting it very likely I won’t do anything… most days have 4+ hours of meetings. On a no-meeting day, if I can get myself to at least start, I’ll end up getting a bunch of stuff done that was pending for a month (or 3). I keep telling people we need more heads down time for deep work, but get ignored. I don’t know about everyone else, but I can’t code anything when I’m being interrupted every 30 minutes for a meeting. Even if I know one is coming up in 2 hours, I know that will be the peak of my flow and don’t even want to start, knowing the flow will be broken, so I do nothing.

Other times the procrastination is really bad is when the job in front of me is too hard. Shifting my attention to anything else is my brains way of avoiding that overwhelming problem. For this I’d recommend breaking down the problem more. Break it down as small as you need until the piece in front of you is manageable. If it seems hard to start, because things are unclear, see if you can meet with some people to get clarity. I tend to put these meetings off too, because that’s uncomfortable, but once I have them (assuming the meeting went well and provided the clarify I needed), I feel a lot better and can start making progress again.

Yesterday was a rare no-meeting day for me. I started procrastinating, because that was the loop I was in. Then I cut my hair, which then meant I had to take a shower, by that time it was lunch, so no sense starting on anything before lunch… However, after lunch I forced myself to start, which is maybe a 5 minute thing, and once I did that I was golden. Heads down for a couple hours making progress. Then I ran into a problem that was uncomfortable, and got up and did some stuff around the house for a while, but then told myself I just needed to pick a direction, and if I think of something better later I can change it. By the end of the day I was able to ship some code that had been pending for 3 weeks.

If you can pay attention to what your triggers are, then you can come up with some strategies to better avoid then, or get back into things once you head down that road. When I was cleaning the house a little, it was somewhat intentional, as I figured if I distracted myself with something else I’d come up with an idea randomly or have a better chance of having a way forward when I sat back down. I like this better than beating my head against the desk. My brain can just do its thing for a while and then I can go back to work. It may not look productive, but it is.

When I used to work in an office I’d always wear a hoodie. When I got really focused on something my hood would go up. This was a completely unconscious thing, but people eventually learned not to bother me when my hood was up. That wasn’t a purposefully thing, but it worked out pretty well for me. Of course I also had a period of time where my boss made me sit in another room and told the entire rest of the team they weren’t allowed to talk to me. That helped a lot as well, as I was getting interrupted constantly… probably an unrealistic scenario for most.

I’m projecting, but also, I said it was an assumption that’s generally held, not a hard fact that everyone does or should believe. We all know different people and that will color or views.

I don’t understand how this works. When I go into vote it’s private. No one sees my vote but me. How can they know if someone needs some intimidation if they don’t know who the person is voting for. And why would anyone engage? If an angry MAGA mob started telling me to vote for Trump, I’d just say “will do”, then go in and not vote for Trump as planned. A simple lie would allow someone to move on with their life and make any attempts a non-issue.

What am I missing here? I get there are some people who would engage and get into some big fight, but that probably happens to those people a lot.

It’s not that people don’t think women have the capability. There is just a general assumption that they’re smart enough not to waste their time with it and they have better things to do, like actual hobbies and friends/family to see.

When I have time to kill I dick around online and usually ignore anything else I could do. Every woman I know is making scrapbooks, knitting her own hats and some more for others, taking care of some kids, building and maintaining relationships with people in the real world, cooking amazing food just because they want it, getting involved in the community, working some extra side jobs, and generally doing stuff to make their world and the world around them better.

Why do you assume the assumption that everyone is a guy online is somehow the result of a negative view on women?

If you base its on the people, the West side of the US would start around Chicago. Most people live to the east of Colorado, so to all of those people, Colorado is west. Geographically, if we’re just talking the lower 48, Kansas is the middle… Colorado is west of that too.

I moved my Plex server over to a NAS. I tried adding music in there, and then found PlexAmp, which lets me stream to my phone, and even use CarPlay (which really surprised me).

I used it for a while, but then decided to blow out my entire Apple Music library and start over to see if I could use it in a way that didn’t annoy me, so I’m on that journey now. The Plex experiment mostly stopped when the media migration became annoying. I’m a bit of a perfectionist about it and when things can’t be perfect I start finding reasons to procrastinate. With the music streaming services things aren’t perfect either, butI can’t do anything about it. This still bothers me, but because it’s beyond my control the paralysis isn’t there, because there was nothing to do in the first place.