I also really liked CeraVe products, but recently found out they are on the Boycott-Divest-Sanction list for Israel-supporting companies, if that matters to your political views.

Tingly. That’s my closest word for the feeling.

Thank you for providing some real life numbers and experience.

$8k of unexpected costs can be a lot for some people, and feel like a steep price for some holes to be dug. Doing these surveys does require skilled labor and a host of professionals to analyze and produce reports.

It sounds like much of the agony comes from administrative hold ups on the government’s side, which is where my attention would be focused if I was an impacted citizen. Permitting shouldn’t take years to complete with proper reports.

No, I’m saying that it is up to the buyer to be aware of the risks they are taking with a purchase and that they accept them when they make that purchase. Just like any house, you get an assessment beforehand to make sure you aren’t buying a lemon. They wouldn’t pay $300k for an assessment; that is to dig their entire property. They might pay $1-2k for an archeologist to dig a soil pit and make a determination based on the findings. That is what reasonable risk avoidance looks like.

I’m also not advocating for the homeowner to liable for the entire price tag. I’m just in the camp that this was a foreseeable potential outcome.

It’s not about knowing, it’s about risk.

I live in an earthquake zone. I know before ai buy a home, I should consult an earthquake map to see my risk of liquidation or amplification and make a judgement based on that.

When buying a property, it is in the buyers interest to look at KNOWN hazards, assess the risk and make informed decisions. Archeological remains is a known risk of that area, just like flooding might be because of the lake front.

The only reason it would be a fraction of the cost is because there would be no regulations and no requirement to adhere to certain standards. Of course it would be cheaper, but it would also probably miss a lot of evidence and destroy much more if there was no requirement to meet a standard. Probably no indigenous inclusion as well.

I do agree that the law needs to be redone to define undue hardship and set clear limits on what a homeowner is responsible for. Owning property is a privilege, not a right, and thus the homeowners should be responsible for a portion of it, but not a bankruptable amount. I have a hard time assessing what pity is deserved in this case, because they clearly had the money to buy a second, lake-front home. Not saying $300k is chump change, but this isn’t a poor family by any means.

I am a bit shocked that the homeowners were unaware of the amount of remains found in the area.

I’m sorry you experienced that. That is horrible and should never be your problem as a nurse. Security should have been there for you.

You did nothing wrong. In fact, your body responded in the best way possible for your safety. Staying still is a stress response, and while it was horrible to endure, your body chose it because it was likely to keep you safe until your adrenaline dropped and you could think rationally again. Had you run, or fought, or tried to explain yourself the situation would have likely escalated.

I know in hindsight it feels like maybe if you had done “something else” or something different, things would have changed, but you have no control over that other person and it sounds like grief was taking the reins for them. It wasn’t about you, it was about losing their family member, and you were the quickest target for that aggression. There was nothing you could have done to change that outcome, and I think your body made the safest choice of also doing nothing.

Systematically, you shouldn’t have to endure that ever. Workplace harassment and violence is a big deal and healthcare workers deserve better.

My advice is to check if there is a public job agency sponsored by your province/state that offer free help with job hunting.

Additionally, getting micro credentials or short-term training for niche jobs can open you up to a whole new market (eg. 6 month healthcare tech certificates so you can work at blood donation centers)

Second the advice to remove your degree for low-paying work. I had some insight into hiring when I was young and saw a ton of well-educated people get their resumes tossed because the hiring manager assumed they would leave right away.

To these hiring managers: Educated people need to eat too, jackass.

10/10 True shower thought