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advice for a girl obsessed with her bf?

what did you all do if you were obsessed with your partner at one point? - Lemmings.world

i wrote this in a rush… so i’m polyamorous. i’m 15 years old and a girl. i go by “jessica” on here, which obviously isn’t my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude “avery” (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn’t know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend. our therapist, “miss alex” (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before. one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not. well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames. we became close. here’s the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, “david” (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous. well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him. now we are together. sometimes, he’s busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn’t respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i’ve been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i’ve known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he’s always been respectful and loving even as a friend. but i have an anxious attachment i’m trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more “secure” around girls and more “anxious” around boys, though i used to be avoidant.

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 24

what did you all do when you were obsessed with your partner?

https://lemmings.world/post/41844967

what did you all do when you were obsessed with your partner? - Lemmings.world

i wrote this in a rush… so i’m polyamorous. i’m 15 years old and a girl. i go by “tanya” on here, which obviously isn’t my real name but its what you can call me on this account. at a therapy group center, i met this other polyamorous dude “avery” (m16). at first, i was 13 and didn’t know he was polyamorous, so when we connected really fast and he mentioned his girlfriend all of a sudden, i was sad but gave up and just wanted to be his friend. our therapist, “miss alex” (all fake names so they are in quotes) left as she was having a baby, then got another job or decided to be a stay-at-home mom, i forgot which. avery left the group a while before. one time, i was in the waiting room and i saw him with a group of other teens, but i decided not to say anything. im faceblind and did not know whether that was him or not. well, some time after, i was sitting pretty close but not right next to him, and i could clearly see that was the avery i knew. he recognized me and we finally exchanged social media usernames. we became close. here’s the thing: i found out he was polyamorous but he had a boyfriend, “david” (m16). he asked me if i wanted to, and i said yeah, and he said he would check in with david and finally tell him he was polyamorous. david supported him but wanted to be monogamous. well, a month or two ago, they broke up. about 3 weeks ago, avery confessed to me finally when i joined his group again, and i realized i was so sad about him and david being together but happy for them because i was jealous and wanted to be the one for him. now we are together. sometimes, he’s busy with other things or just reads the messages and doesn’t respond. sometimes, i get scared i text too much since i’ve been insulted and had mean things said to me from that, but the rational part of my brain says i’ve known him for like 3 years and for over a year fully, and he would not do that. he’s always been respectful and loving even as a friend. but i have an anxious attachment i’m trying to work on. my attachments are different depending on the partner and i for some reason always am more “secure” around girls and more “anxious” around boys, though i used to be avoidant. shdhdhdhjdjjdjdjdjdjdj

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 22

How can I help my younger sister with her moodiness?

https://lemmings.world/post/41740930

How can I help my younger sister with her moodiness? - Lemmings.world

We who get periods all experience them in different ways. For me, I get a bit more irritated and I eat a lot more and also become either a lot more happy or a lot more depressed during PMS. My sister (13), she gets more irritated and rude, sarcastic, grumpy, and mean. She blames everything she does on her period and insults others and treats them rudely, and then sulks when she gets told not to be that way. How can I help my sister on her period while also helping others and helping her be less rude?

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Jéssica/Vitor Feb 20

There’s really no goodness in my life and I’m super unlucky. So bye. People told me to get off of social media. I will. I’ll be dead. And for anyone who harassed me when I was in middle school (not on here), fuck you. I hope you’re happy with yourself. And my boyfriend prob won’t care lol

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 20

I may kill myself

https://lemmings.world/post/41648459

I may kill myself - Lemmings.world

I’ve been feeling really depressed. That’s all. Goodbye.

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 20

AITAH for deciding to let HIM come to ME?

https://lemmings.world/post/41648026

AITAH for deciding to let HIM come to ME? - Lemmings.world

I (F15) liked this guy (M16) at my therapy group since I was 13 in 2023. He left the group and the group ended with the therapist leaving so I thought I’d never see him again. I got his contact information and he started to like me after a while but he had a boyfriend and they weren’t in an open relationship, so a typical one for teenagers. He broke up with him about a month or 2 ago, and he started to like me. Now we are dating. He has been leaving my messages on “seen” constantly (meaning reading them but not responding), probably because he’s busy. Since I have a bad past with people being cruel to me for texting too much or just being told “can you not text me?” I am scared that will happen with him, so I decided to let him text me first because I’m afraid he might feel bombarded. AITAH? Am I being, like, dramatic? He does this for days, by the way, only responding when it’s convenient or important.

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 20

Anxious attachment and avoidant attachment?? Help??

https://lemmings.world/post/41636277

Anxious attachment and avoidant attachment?? Help?? - Lemmings.world

So I (F15) have liked this guy (M16) since a little bit after we first started to become friends almost 3 years ago. I was 13 and Avery, my BF, was 14. Well, I thought all chances of us being a thing beyond friends were gone when he mentioned his girlfriend at the time, so my feelings went away. We met at therapy group and the group leader left, and so did he, so that helped my feelings to go away. I thought they went away forever though. Well, one day, I found him playing a video game on his phone when we were both waiting for our therapists to come. He instantly recognized me and I got his contact information. We became close, and he started developing feelings for me. Well, afterwards, I found out that he had a boyfriend now and asked his boyfriend if it was okay to date me, since I liked him too, but they turned out to be in a monogamous relationship, so I moved on from him and decided to stay friends with him. However, I always saw him as someone I could trust, as I even did an activity with the therapist I have, saying something like “Trusted people I can talk to: Avery, [name], [other name]” etc. I am downright obsessed with the guy and I don’t wanna be like this. I mean, we finally started dating for real, he’s not with his boyfriend anymore, and he loves me. I’ve been to his house a few times and he’s really fun to hang out with. Also, I check my messages every few minutes hoping he texted, he’s constantly on my mind, and my feelings for him even come out throughout the day as me trying to be serious and focus, then self-dislike, then frustration. And I get really depressed and stuff when he talks to other people. It’s not so much that he’s talking to someone else, that he’s focusing his attention on someone who isn’t me, but moreso that he leaves me on seen/opened constantly and doesn’t reply. If he does reply, he gives pretty dry responses but that’s the kind of guy he is. He’s always been a bit of a dry texter and has always been less of a texter and more of someone who will just acknowledge your texts. Deep down, I know he loves me. I just don’t know how to deal with my emotions towards him, but I’m trying. I’m lowkey worried I’m becoming like one of those anime “yandere” type characters.

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 16

What do I do? Boyfriend won't respond to my texts, am I overreacting?

https://lemmings.world/post/41445782

What do I do? Boyfriend won't respond to my texts, am I overreacting? - Lemmings.world

So my (F15) boyfriend (M16) Avery and I have only been dating for like a few weeks but we have been friends for almost 3 years, since he was 14 and I was 13. Now, I usually expect this from him, to not respond to my texts, as that’s what he did even when we were friends, only texting sometimes or when it was important. For example, yesterday he made plans for us to hang out today, but he cancelled on me right when I was about to go there, saying he suddenly didn’t feel like it. I was fine with it, but then I asked if he was alright and such and what was wrong, and he didn’t respond, but it did show that he saw it. I’m trying to be fine with it, but my insecurities are making me think this is somehow my fault.

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 16

Seriously...

https://lemmings.world/post/41443874

Seriously... - Lemmings.world

Maybe I’m overreacting but I could say something online (not here) like “Me, my girlfriend and my boyfriend (we are polyamorous) did XYZ” and something like “my boyfriend (he is a demiboy so I will use he and they pronouns)” and people will just be like “OmG yOu’Re KiDs WhY ArE yOu UsInG LaBeLs To DeScRiBe YoUrSeLvEs, GrOw Up BiTcH”. 1) I’m 15. 2) Don’t call me a bitch. 3) Labels and adjectives are how people describe themselves in their language and it’s for clarity and context. 4) How about not being rude and just responding to the post without your two cents and sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong? Same goes for people who go to my post history on social media (again, never happened on Lemmy, thankfully) just to say I’m faking being bi because 15 year olds “can’t be bi”. (Yes, I’m bi. Yes, I need to change my profile picture).

Jéssica/Vitor Feb 8

AITAH for writing a selfship fanfic of my character and another character?

https://lemmings.world/post/41044149

AITAH for writing a selfship fanfic of my character and another character? - Lemmings.world

I (15F) am bisexual (yes, I need to change my profile picture). I watch American Dad and there are two particular characters I am growing fond of: Francine (the mom, since last year) and Avery Bullock (the CIA boss, I’ve seen some posts about people liking him and he’s starting to grow on me romantically. I, of course, acknowledge that these people aren’t real, but I was still very proud of the fanfic I wrote of Francine and my character. However, when I told my girlfriend of 2 years this, who has lately become very opinionated, blunt, and stuff, she told me she didn’t like when I did artwork nor when I wrote and that my fanfiction idea was stupid, especially my new idea with me and Avery Bullock. She said she bet that the creators probably hated my idea too and that they probably hated selfshipping. I have never seen her act like this until recently, so I was really taken aback. I even deleted the fanfic because my girlfriend’s opinion means a lot and she called me weird and cringey for it. So, AITAH for being kinda upset by what she said?