AITA for breaking up with my date? - Lemmy.World
I was dating my coworker for about two months until one day she decided to pull
a baby joke on me. I was 20, and she was 29. Everything was completely fine
before this. She hopped off of me (we went all the way) and smiled at me with a
somewhat evil look, saying, “In 3 months, you’ll get the notice.” I looked at
her, scared, trying to ask if she was joking, and she said, “Yes,” but I still
didn’t believe her. We had a bad moment; she immediately ended the sex, and I
dropped her off at home. This really freaked me out because on the first date,
she took off my condom without permission and then said, when I didn’t want to
go all the way, “You don’t trust me?” Additionally, the date we had planned for
the week, she canceled without saying anything, and then didn’t text me the
entire day. When I tried to call her, she hung up on me twice and didn’t call me
back until the next afternoon. She made my life a complete hell after all of
this. She would hold me up if I asked her out on a date; she would be the one to
initiate. I couldn’t ask directly; I could only mention it. By the way, she is
Latina and did say to me that she was toxic. I got so scared after that incident
that I even called an old coworker to ask if she had her citizenship because I
was trying to avoid child support. Unfortunately, this coworker backstabbed me
and called her. She freaked out on me, saying it was just a joke and that I
needed to “be a man.” A simple “sorry” from her would have gone a million miles,
but she couldn’t even do that. I was so freaked out that I was planning on
killing myself that week. We talked things through after a couple of days, and
she wanted to take me out on a date again, but I just didn’t trust her anymore.
My gut was telling me no, especially when I asked to use her phone, and she got
all jumpy, saying she had to call insurance. At that point, I decided to
secretly end the relationship. I started playing dumb until she eventually left.
But am I wrong for dumping her? Also, she held me up for 2 months, and got upset
on her last day on why I didn’t want to get back with her.