I don’t think proposing at someone’s wedding is always a bad thing
https://lemmy.world/post/4270956
I don’t think proposing at someone’s wedding is always a bad thing - Lemmy.world
Ok. Hear me out.
Disclaimer - proposing at someone’s wedding or announcing a pregnancy at someone
else’s event, if you don’t have the explicit permission of the hosts, is never
ok. I would have been overjoyed if someone got engaged at my wedding. I would
have been so insanely happy if someone had announced their pregnancy at my baby
shower. I give zero fucks about having to be the centre of attention and like,
it was MY wedding and my shower, so it’s right in the title that it’s all about
me. In fact, just as I’m flattered to be asked to be in a bridal party, I’d be
flattered as fuck if someone picked my event to announce something huge- I would
feel extra included in their massive life moment. I would feel like I was
important to them. My ego would be purring that they were going to have my event
be part of their story forever. A wedding is your special day, yes, and
ultimately what the bride and groom wants is what should happen-period. But
weddings are also about family and friends. The people you invite were a part of
your life before you met and fell in love, and will be there watching your
marriage grow. And you will be there in the same way in their lives. A wedding
is like a family reunion. It makes sense that when you’re celebrating, you
should celebrate all the things while you all have a chance to be together. I
think it would be better to just always ask first, respect the answer, whatever
it may be. Don’t be a psycho and just do a surprise or do it when the host says
no. But the blanket opinion that it’s tacky or rude and never ok, I just don’t
agree.
Help me find the words to explain my husband’s ignorant behaviour
https://lemmy.world/post/4206460
Help me find the words to explain my husband’s ignorant behaviour - Lemmy.world
I’m getting tired of being the household beast of burden. Last night I decided
to try and make just ONE damned chore in the house equitable. I assigned one kid
to empty the dishwasher, the other to fill it, and my husband to wash whatever
large items wouldn’t fit in the dishwasher. We discussed it. He agreed it was
fair. I HATE a dirty kitchen and can’t cook when it’s filthy and I’m tired of
doing all the cleanup before slaving away at the stove and then repeating.
Spoiler: he did not wash the dishes. He played video games and then went to bed.
I washed them this morning.
I was mildly annoyed (read this happens constantly so I’m used to it) and told
him just now that since I washed those dishes, could he please put them away.
He’s doing that now, but his response has me fucking fuming. “Why wouldn’t you
just wait until I washed them? Why did you HAVE to do the dishes just to make me
feel bad about it?” I was mildly annoyed before and now I’m just fucking
furious. He has no idea why I would even consider that manipulative. I’m so mad
right now I can’t even find the words to productively explain to him why that
statement was so offside. Help me, sisters. I can’t even find the words.
Why does “come here” bother me so much?
https://lemmy.world/post/2695625
Why does “come here” bother me so much? - Lemmy.world
Ok, I have no idea why this bothers me and I don’t even know what to call it. My
husband is a “come here” guy. Something he thinks is interesting and wants to
show me - hey, come here! Nuclear apocalypse - hey, come here! Why the hell wont
he just tell me why he wants me to get up, trudge to wherever he is, so that he
can reveal the surprise like some sort of performative art ? I never know if
it’s going to be legitimate, a disaster, or something stupid. The walk to
wherever he is is insanely stressful because the whole time I’m running through
all possible horrible scenarios (we’ve had a lot of issues at the house lately
so I never know if I’m going to find water in the basement or raccoons in the
attic or a hole in my foundation, or just him looking at a funny cat video). I’d
rather he say “hey, babe, something is happening wherever/whatever, come see
this.” Instead I have to have the whole performance and reveal and I fucking
hate it. Anyone else know what I’m talking about or am I just mental ?
