Were we the assholes for keeping this guy on our sports team who turned out to be a perv? - Lemmy.World

I (35m) happen to do some work at my local university and alma mater, helping out student athletes. I’ve become close with one athlete, a 23 year old female student, “C”, who is half-French and half-Korean. She spent much of her life growing up in France before moving to the US starting in high school. Recently, it’s been found out that many of the male athletes whom C trusts have been stalking her, both in real life and online. The guys have gone on her social media and downloaded pictures of her and they have been circulating those pictures amongst themselves in group chats accompanied by extremely sexual commentary about what they all want to do with her. By now we’ve meted out appropriate discipline to those male athletes, except we’ve kept one 18 year old male freshman on our team whose only crime really was being the recipient of the pictures of C. He did not actively take part in any of this mess. Last week, just as an icebreaker between the boy and C, we got him to hold her legs in place as she did her situps, and we immediately split them up when we found C crying and clutching her tank top, kicking herself away from the boy. Nothing really happened between them aside from the boy talking to C while she was doing her situps, and this apparently really upset her. A few days after this incident, I felt like C really needed a break, so I took her to a restaurant near campus to treat her to her favorite food, smoked salmon. It was all on me, and while we sat down eating, C started talking about what why exactly the boy upset her so much. She started talking about how she noticed him staring through her shorts and how he even twirled her tank top’s straps with his fingers. I saw her struggling not to cry as she told me that she regretted wearing just a “skimpy” (in her own words) tank top and shorts that day. Before she could say any more, I quickly cut her off and said TMI (I’m not interested in having someone more than 10 years younger than me sexualize herself like that). This pissed her off enough that she just grumpily stopped eating and lightly shoved her salmon towards me. She had a sad look on her face and just grumbled that it was all our fault that we didn’t kick that freshman off of the team.