Imaginary Advice

[Episode 115] Three audio pieces inspired by the "Ship of Theseus" paradox. A man in healthcare communications is replaced by a clone; an after-dinner party turns bloody when presents are exchanged;
The most recent I can think of is It Takes A War. store.steampowered.com/app/…/It_Takes_a_War/
It is a real game. It plays like a cheap clone of Counter Strike, but the gunplay is a backdrop for what the game is about.
It’s a great game. It’s amazing how many problems you can solve by hijacking a nearby ship and ramming it into your target.
Getting a time dilation device and blitzing across a dozen rooms to your target feels like an action movie scene.
It feels like an immersive sim but you can finish a mission in 5 minutes.
My friend then told me to tell Dad he was AFAB, so I told him that and he got more annoyed, saying he wouldn’t let me spend time with a trans guy who was gonna make my head “weird”.
This seems like the main issue. I assume your dad’s homophobia is part of the reason you haven’t come out yet. It’s an awful thing to deal with. I’m sorry. However, if you think your dad is an otherwise reasonable person you may be able to talk him through it.
Both of your dad’s objections come from him being worried about you. He is worried that your friend might hurt you in some way. You need to find a way to show your dad that your friend is a nice person that cares about you.
There’s no easy way to fix things, but I have ideas. These assume your dad is a somewhat reasonable person that you feel safe around. I apologize if that is not accurate:
Introduce your friend to your dad in a neutral place. Maybe a park or a restaurant. Let your dad stay for a while. It’s lame, but it builds trust.
Arrange a hangout with multiple friends. It shows that y’all just want to be together like normal friends. No sketch stuff.
Have you met your friend’s parents? If they seem like good people you can introduce them to your dad. If your dad trusts the parents he’ll be more likely to let you be see them.
Tell your dad why you like your friend. What do you have in common? Do they tell good jokes? Do they like the same games and movies that you do?
Avoid mentioning sex or gender when talking about your friend. Just focus on the things that make them a cool person that you like to spend time with.
I realize I am assuming a best case scenario. I hope your father will be understanding. It’s going to be a difficult process either way.
Good luck.