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We have always been our son's moms, now he's calling me dad.

We have always been our son's moms, now he's calling me dad. - Lemmy.World

Hello there! My wife and I are a trans + cis lesbian couple. Our son (2) has always known us as his moms, and uses “she” for both of us. Lately, he’s heard a lot of talk about other kid’s moms and dads at daycare, and has started trying to use that same language at home. That isn’t preferred of course; we do our best to remind him that he has two moms, but being a toddler he’s noticed that he gets extra attention when he uses that word, so that’s fun! I’m not too worried about how we’ll handle that, it’s just going to take time. What I’m wondering is if this is something cis gay/lesbian couples experience? Like, your child becomes aware of the categories of “mom” and “dad”, and tries to fit both parents into those categories? I’d like to think that it can happen to cis queer couples as well, but it could also just be since I am trans.

Kayday Mar 1

Cherishing moments like this, staying home for cuddles with our sick kiddo; doctor's orders

https://lemmy.world/post/43733743

Kayday Feb 27

Finally comfortable enough to get the bangs I've wanted for over a decade

https://lemmy.world/post/43643769

Kayday Dec 28

(not) patiently waiting for my muscle mass to reduce

https://lemmy.world/post/40826576

(not) patiently waiting for my muscle mass to reduce - Lemmy.World

I’m around 9 months of feminizing HRT, and maintain the opinion that it is one of the best decisions I’ve made. I know that a lot of long term changes won’t kick in until the 2-3 year mark at least, and it can take 5 or more years before strength is comparable to a cis woman. Yesterday I took some milestone pictures, and it was the first time I’ve seen my back since before starting hormones. Holy dysphoria Batman. Genuinely the most acute dysphoria I’ve experienced. I have had a day to cry, nap, and evaluate, and am back to trusting the process, but damn I want these lats to go away. I powerlifter in my past life as a way to try and run away from the woman I wanted to become, but haven’t done any upper body strength training in over 3 years. I’d have great genes if I wasn’t trans ;-; [https://lemmy.world/pictrs/image/30f45d84-fc9d-4eea-aa6d-e8fce2431264.jpeg]

Kayday Nov 12

Mental health referrals for bottom surgery [US]

https://lemmy.world/post/38700746

Mental health referrals for bottom surgery [US] - Lemmy.World

I’m currently in the process of obtaining the two different mental health referrals my insurance asks for before they will cover my orchiectomy. My doctor set me up with a therapist who can be my first referral, and she’s great; very kind, and understanding of my situation. I am getting antsy though. At the start of our first session, she asked what my goal in seeing her was, to which I responded politely but bluntly, “I just need a referral for my insurance to get bottom surgery.” She took that graciously, I think. We have now completed two sessions of therapy and I am wondering how many are necessary for her to just give the referral already… The plan is to ask her in our next session how long before she can give the referral. I haven’t been given an expectation from her so far, which is a little concerning. I don’t want to just get roped into paying for extra sessions. I had (naively?) hoped back in October that I could start the process and get surgery scheduled for January at the latest, but since I’m still working on the first of two referrals, that seems unlikely.

Kayday Oct 25

Bathroom etiquette question

https://lemmy.world/post/37853520

Bathroom etiquette question - Lemmy.World

[seeking input from people who use female restrooms] Hello! I have been using women’s restrooms for some time now. Tonight however, will be the first time that I will be going out with some girlfriends where public toilets will be involved. Everyone I am going with knows that I am trans, and is supportive. My questions/concerns are: - If I get up to use the bathroom, should I ask anyone if they would like to come with? - If another woman gets up, should I offer to go with? - If we are using the restroom at the same time, and I finish first, should I wait for them? If so, inside, or outside? I’m mostly just wanting to act “normal,” and don’t want to unknowingly perform any social faux pas. Thanks!

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Kayday Oct 2

For context, I know we have this chart in the transfem literature, but my doctor also provided this table with my results:
Female
Follicular Phase: 12-233 pg/mL
Ovulation Phase: 41-398 pg/mL
Luteal Phase: 22-341 pg/mL
Postmenopausal: <138 pg/mL
Which seems to suggest that my level would be acceptable.

An Introduction to Hormone Therapy for Transfeminine People

An Introduction to Hormone Therapy for Transfeminine People by Aly

Transfeminine Science

Kayday Oct 2

Doctor thinks my E is too high

https://lemmy.world/post/36788055

Doctor thinks my E is too high - Lemmy.World

Title I’ve been on HRT for 6 months, with 5mg weekly injections for the last 3 of those months. 3 months ago, my E was 22 pg/ml, now it is 333 pg/ml. Doctor says that is too high and is going to to reduce me to a “maintenance dose”. Just wanted to check with other people if this is consistent with their experiences. Thanks!

Kayday Oct 1

Orchiectomy in Chicago, IL. Anyone here been through that?

https://lemmy.world/post/36741997

Orchiectomy in Chicago, IL. Anyone here been through that? - Lemmy.World

[Asking MtF people who have had genital surgery, ideally in Chicago] Hello! I started talking to my doctor yesterday about finding a surgeon for a bilateral orchiectomy. We both agreed Chicago would probably be a practical place to find someone experienced in the procedure. I found two doctors: Dr. Loren Schechter, MD, and Dr. Traci P. Beck, MD. Both have come up in my searching, but I wanted to check if anyone in the community has advice / recommendations for who to go to.

Kayday Jul 26, 2025

Tried to get a picture of my mascara application for future reference and accidentally killed someone.

https://lemmy.world/post/33498755