Lol. 90% of social interactions are pure evidence of that
So real. Same with drugs.
Im really sorry that happened to you, that’s awful. Its also what I’m terrified of, calling help for them and that causing them to not tell me the next time. So far I haven’t had to do that but I have had to convince them to call help themselves which worked. Then they started blaming me for being alive (in a good way) though its still overwhelming to hear that. They talk so much about self harm and their suicidal intentions to the point where its traumatic and I honestly dont know how much more I can take before I do something stupid and let them down. The other friend is just distant and its terrifying when they don’t answer any messages. You’re right though, there’s nothing I can do about it except tell them how much they mean to me and listen to them when they need to talk.
Last time i tried to talk to them about how id been feeling they completely started blaming themselves for it. I didnt tell them much, just that having to constantly hear about their self harm habits is overwhelming and I often don’t know how to respond to things. I do tell them I would miss them and that I enjoy spending time with them. But its so overwhelming because every single message I send to anyone I always overanalyze it to make sure it won’t affect them negatively. I have frequent nightmares where my friends die of any circumstance and its always my fault. So I’m terrified of accidentally tipping them over the edge.
Anyone else dealing with suicidal friends?
https://lemmy.world/post/40636225
Anyone else dealing with suicidal friends? - Lemmy.World
A little over a month ago my two best friends tried to kill themselves on the
same night. Throughout the month one of those friends has done that several
times. Thankfully they’re both still alive today. Ever since that happened I
haven’t felt like myself at all, I just, feel like I’m carrying too much and
like I’m all alone. People know being suicidal is hard and loosing someone to
suicide is hard but having someone you really care about try to kill themselves
(and describe how they did it) can also be hard on anyone. I can’t make a
description of the event on this post but I can say that they didn’t pull back,
they didn’t stop and turn back, they tried to go through and were stopped by an
external source. For me that’s the part that hurts the most. Knowing they wanted
to go through with it. Ever since it happened Ive been having intrusive
thoughts/images about it and just feeling constantly stressed/irritable and
having nightmares every now and them. Nightmares in either which I watch them
hurt themselves or they die by some form and its my fault. I also had
per-existing abandonment issues so before this happened I’d constantly wonder
how I would feel if my friends died but the one thing that kept me grounded was
knowing that that can’t happen in any realistic scenario and now its happening.
Going through life I feel so different, like none of the people I see from day
to day have gone through something like this so that makes me different, and if
I told them what’s going on in my head they’d see me as pathetic because I
shouldn’t feel this way since they’re still alive. I feel so isolated. Like I
want someone, not anyone, but a close friend, who I can talk to about this, but
then I remember I have three friends in this world, and two of them want to die.
The third one I can talk to but wasn’t affected the same way and doesn’t really
relate. I don’t really know what I’m asking through this post, I guess I just
wanted to let it out. I guess I also want to know I’m not alone. Anyone else
going through this?
For me, a perfect life would be a job, any job, that keeps me afloat, a house to live in, even if its just a small apartment, and a few good friends.
You can see it in his eyes. He’s seen things…
I taught myself to not feel my feelings. I feel great now. Being depressed is better than being overly emotional and unstable.
I can’t really give the best advice. A while ago I went through some things and decided to avoid all my friends. I remember, decpite my decision, I really would’ve loved if one of my close friends reached out. Idk about your friend though, everyone is different. If I were you I would definitely reach out. Make them understand that you really care about them.
