This doesn’t have enough upvotes imo. Contingency hell can be dealt with. (mind you, noting wrong with having a contingency plan or two, but there’s a point where it goes from a healthy survival mechanism to a debilitating maladaptive coping mechanism)

I’m still in contingency plan hell, but I’ve managed to deal with it in some parts of my life and that feeling of just coming out of a situation that used to make you tense AF and then realizing you were not even considering to worry about it is the best feeling even. This was something I never expected to be possible.

And honestly, I have been stressing out about the other bits of my life that are still contingency hell, kinda thinking I might never get rid of them, just how I felt about the things I actually did deal with…

Guess I came here to remind some internet rando’s that it is in fact possible; ended up reminding myself :')

Clinging to #5 Working on #1 (hoping it’ll be the doorway to at least some of the other 3)

We’re still here, that’s already a lot :)

lol same!

“Major cause found; Becky is at it again!”

i wasn’t very accurate i guess. I browse trough wefwef.app Was looking for an alternative to 9gag… so glad I found… whatever lemmy is.

Havn’t even read the article, am not even part of this group. just want tot say that lemmy.world/all is a wierd thing to wake up to in the morning.

When I used our dial in modem for the first time, I never would have guessed id be drinking my coffee casually wondering about alpaca sex.

But here we are

Listen.

When I just wake up I need sustenance but my motor skills are as low as my brain fog is high. I -am- however functional enough to press the “make coffee button” and slap a spoon in a container of yogurt.

Yogurt and decaf* coffee are nice, but not enough to keep my 100+KG of pure overthinking going for long. Luckily, while sipping on my coffee I can knead dough, so by lunchtime I should have fresh bread. (or stale bread from the day before)** What goes on the bread has been decided mostly in my youth, has been altered when I moved on my own, and these days only gets tweaked… it works, why fuck with it.

Dinner has been planned over the weekend so when evening starts and my brain is all cooked out, but my motor skills are at its peak, cooking up some pasta/rice/potato dish with veggies should be easy. Anything more involved is for occasions where I have time to be invested in cooking. On weekends I cook bulk for the days where I don’t function, so my freezer is stuffed with all sort of 1 pan dishes.

Within these variables I eat fairly varied, but you really don’t want to be around when I am forced to change them on short notice. EG; when I forgot to get yoghurt, it might take me untill mid afternoon untill ive recovered ^^"

it took me about 15 years to work this system out, but by george I have finally mastered eating 3 meals a day.

*Don’t give me regular, apocalypses have been started over less.

**Im working on baguette dough so I can make it the day before so i can portion better and don’t have to knead in the morning)

not everyone I meet sees my medical profile, lol.
And even then they are happy to question it. Sure every now and then I mention it, bubt 9/10 I don’t. And for the longest time I’ve been diagnosed.

Finding a way to carry yourself that works for you really can make a difference.

Speaking from my own experiences… (i’m diagnosed with autism and high-IQ)

People seem to read vulnerabilities they cant really place as general mental fucked upness. For example, I struggle when two people talk to me at the same time, or ask me several questions at once. Have a couple of these incidents happen and some people start treating me as if I’m missing a chromosome. I think when people are dealing with something thy know little about, some would rather fill the blanks with ignorance and stereotypes. You could invite them to learn more, but also… meh, their loss.

People who are familiar with autism, or being overloaded on info… they often automatically slow down, ask about my challenges, ect.

I’ve learned some tricks to demand respect though, you can’t expect everyone to be sensible. I have an elaborate vocabulaire, and though I prefer to talk informal, sometimes talking slightly more formal than the person in front of you can keep them on their toes.

Another direction, I also like to deploy, is to just play the dumdum they think I am. It means less expectations, less bullshit. And honestly, nothing is more satisfying when halfway trough the year they find out you know the source material better than they do.

Another thing that has really worked for me is to surround myself with people who are eager to get to know me as an individual. In time this has also helped me grow the confidence to convince or even demand other people to understand how I work even if it originally isn’t there priority.

Hope his helps

I will be your #1 personal progress cheerleader though!

Someone can tell me all the things that caught fire because their damaged ass just looked at it, and I will still be like; So you got out of bed AND made coffee? THATS FUCKING AMAZING

I have made mental health one of my obsession topics So I started working in mental health… I didn’t see the problem with it.

I have to stop drinking coffee during work hours and have been working hard my entire career to not out-talk my clients -.- Im getting better at it though