Ok y'all, it's decompression time.
Teo nights ago I ended up connecting with a non-binary but very masc looking black person on a fetish site for csome cyber fun.
After talking a little bit, we ended up in a role-play situation where after they were primed and ready to go they requested that I play as their Master and they my slave, which on its own isn't that concerning as its a very central theme in the BDSM spectrum.
But they then asked me to call them "my slave n**ga". While in the moment I relented, the next morning I was feeling in an odd way, and couldn't shake the feeling of guilt within me.
I messaged the person to very softly say that I don't feel comfortable in doing such and said thanks but no thanks. They thanked me for being upfront about it and having boundaries and we went on our separate ways.
But that does raise bigger questions in my mind. Is this a pretty normal kink for black folks? Should white people participate in it? Should I feel guilty?
Halp!