I have had similar thoughts. I certainly have some deep regrets that I never discuss. I wouldn’t feel comfortable putting them online, though.

PostSecret and /r/confession are/were like this.

When our clothes washer broke, we paid a local pro to repair it for almost the cost of a new one. It was worth it to us, and I’d rather pay a local worker for their labor than a big box store for a new appliance. This was several years ago, and fortunately it’s still working.

Holy cow, thank you. I have friends and family who are so entitled about travel and vacation it’s astonishing. They act like I’m the weirdo buzzkill for simply understanding that I can’t afford it.

Having children when you can’t even take care of yourself. Worse, doubling down and having lots of children in order to “play the odds” and hope at least some survive.

Obviously, I’m not talking about rape victims here, they didn’t choose that.

I’m talking about parents who have no means of support, and intentionally have kids anyway. Then society mostly applauds.

I’ve seen this shit firsthand many times. And humans the world over do it. They breed like mindless animals, then act so sad and surprised when their children suffer.

Definitely insane, yet normalized.

Some updates are very necessary for bug fixes and security patches. Which you may not personally notice, but do potentially impact a lot of people.

However, I agree that “in general” most software devs push out updates way too frequently. Often it’s just to look and feel busy and productive. “Look boss, I did a thing.”

It’s like a dog barking at the mailman. Annoying, but it’s in their nature. Software development is never finished to their satisfaction in the hearts and minds of programmers.

People who say “everything is political” are miserable assholes. But, they are far better citizens than apathetic fuckers who stick their head in the sand. Low information dipshits are why we can’t have nice things.

For serious inquiries: Talk to a competent local CFP at a fiduciary. A good one will run modeling on your situation and give solid advice. There are many variables to account for.

Educate yourselves on worker cooperatives.

You’ve gotten some good advice, but a really powerful fan can make a big difference here. Doesn’t need to be cold so much as move as much air as possible to help the sweat evaporate.

I used to play live music. Stage lights and dive bars can be very hot. I also sweat a lot. A squirrel cage fan blasting me full power in the face and upper body made a huge difference. It was the kind people dry flooded carpets with.

www.democracyatwork.info