Remembering Rodney Dangerfield
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When Gottfried Out-Diced The Dice Man
Contrarianism gone awry
Love Lies Bleeding: A24 tries their hand at exploitation cinema,
Youth In Chaos
Anyone But You
Someone in YouTube's comments section
Someone in YouTube's comments section - Lemmy.World
https://youtu.be/9OBK8KS8Ims?si=zsuzUg8tgWJ1Fpxr [https://youtu.be/9OBK8KS8Ims?si=zsuzUg8tgWJ1Fpxr] Opined that this skit was nothing more than an excuse to get Syd into a Hooter’s outfit. This is probably true, nonetheless we must give SNL’s writers an ounce of grace here: Relying on her “comedic chops” to carry these scenes makes less sense than locking two gangs of machete-wielding Turks and Armenians in a storage vault overnight, then expecting any of them to still be alive the next morning
When politics and sobriety collide
When politics and sobriety collide - Lemmy.World
This has been happening at 12 Steps https://unherd.com/2023/05/how-alcoholics-anonymous-lost-its-way/ [https://unherd.com/2023/05/how-alcoholics-anonymous-lost-its-way/] for awhile. And I’m sad to report that the recovery organization I’ve served as a facilitator with since 2014 (SMART Recovery)has also been derailed from our mission, after making the unforgivably foolish decision to elevate our first DEI coordinator-a man who’d only been a facilitator at the local level, from 2017 to 2020-to the office of Executive Director in 2022. Once there, he wasted no time pulling the sort underhanded jackassery that’s by now rote among Woke Warriors of all stripes, by sending out the following newsletter, encouraging every SMART meeting on the planet to forego rationality and empiricism, in favor of embracing idiocy and prejudice: “Considering Power Dynamics in Our Meetings First in a series of a communications about Empowerment from Executive Director Pete Rubinas Power dynamics exist any time human beings gather in community with one another, and our self-management mutual support group meetings are no exception. Noticing and attending to the power dynamics that exist in our meetings is critical as facilitators. Not doing so is a barrier to empowerment that we should all be concerned about if we want our meetings to be safe places for all participants to pursue their recovery journeys. What do we mean by power? In this context, we are referring to the real and perceived agency that one has over one’s own life and circumstances. There are a variety of factors that help to determine the relative power that an individual perceives in a given situation. Consider these examples: Accumulated Recovery Time Closeness to the Facilitator Financial Security Relationship Security Education Level Gender Gender Identity Sexual Orientation Race Age Physical Health and Ability Mental Health and Ability History of Trauma While there are no absolutes as we consider the relative power of individuals in our meetings, we generally learn enough about participants to be able to recognize when an interpersonal situation is occurring between individuals that are not equally “powerful” at that time. It is crucial in those situations that we, the trained facilitators, intervene as necessary to reinforce the agency of the less powerful party to describe their experiences in their terms without judgment from other group members. If a participant is new to the group, we should assume that they are at a relative power disadvantage simply as a newcomer. Telling new or less powerful participants to use a SMART tool or how to use a SMART tool in response to a share is NOT what we are trained to do when a participant shares something vulnerable with the group. Instead, we should validate the person’s experience, ask how the group can provide support, and use our motivational interviewing skills to explore the share with the participant if they are interested in doing so. If a fellow participant, especially a more powerful participant, invalidates a person’s share, we should remind them that we don’t give direct advice in SMART Recovery and proceed with the steps above. SMART Recovery is an incredible tool for empowerment when it’s implemented in a way that respects that not every person is starting off on a level power playing field. I hope that you’ll join me in reflecting on this topic with an open mind in the spirit of continuous improvement and wanting SMART Recovery to not just be accessible to all, but also empowering for all. Peace, Pete Rubinas (he/him/his)” I’ll put forth a point by point refutation of this nonsense a bit later. For now though, I’m curious: Has anyone else been to a support group lately, only to discover that everyone present is hesitating to say much of anything, for fear that they’ll be labelled “problematic”? Has anyone found that the discussion frequently isn’t even focused on the most effective ways of resisting our addictive urges, and instead veers off into babbling about Privilege/Systems Of Power/Structural Injustices/Marginalized People/Toxic Masculinity?
Quickest way to sabotage your sobriety
Quickest way to sabotage your sobriety - Lemmy.World
Is for your recovery organization to introduce pseudoprogressive, illiberal politics into the program. This is happening at 12 Steps https://unherd.com/2023/05/how-alcoholics-anonymous-lost-its-way/ [https://unherd.com/2023/05/how-alcoholics-anonymous-lost-its-way/] , and I’m sad to report that the recovery organization I’ve served as a facilitator with since 2014 (SMART Recovery)has also been derailed from our mission, after making the unforgivably foolish decision to elevate our first DEI coordinator-a man who’d only been a facilitator at the local level, from 2017 to 2020-to the office of Executive Director in 2022. Once there, he wasted no time pulling the sort underhanded jackassery that’s by now rote among Woke Warriors of stripes, by sending out the following newsletter, encouraging every SMART meeting on the planet to forego rationality and empiricism, in favor of embracing idiocy and prejudice: “Considering Power Dynamics in Our Meetings > > First in a series of a communications about Empowerment from > Executive Director Pete Rubinas > > > > Power dynamics exist any time human beings gather in > community with one another, and our self-management > mutual support group meetings are no exception. Noticing and > attending to the power dynamics that exist in > our meetings is critical as facilitators. Not doing so is a > barrier to empowerment that we should all be > concerned about if we want our meetings to be safe places for > all participants to pursue their recovery > journeys. > > > > What do we mean by power? In this context, we are referring > to the real and perceived agency that one has > over one’s own life and circumstances. There are a variety of > factors that help to determine the relative > power that an individual perceives in a given > situation. Consider these examples: > > > > Accumulated Recovery Time > > Closeness to the Facilitator > > Financial Security > > Relationship Security > > Education Level > > Gender > > Gender Identity > > Sexual Orientation > > Race > > Age > > Physical Health and Ability > > Mental Health and Ability > > History of Trauma While there are no absolutes as we consider the relative > power of individuals in our meetings, we generally > learn enough about participants to be able to recognize when > an interpersonal situation is occurring between > individuals that are not equally “powerful” at that time. It > is crucial in those situations that we, the > trained facilitators, intervene as necessary to reinforce the > agency of the less powerful party to describe > their experiences in their terms without judgment from other > group members. If a participant is new to the > group, we should assume that they are at a relative power > disadvantage simply as a newcomer. > > > > Telling new or less powerful participants to use a SMART tool > or how to use a SMART tool in response to a > share is NOT what we are trained to do when a participant > shares something vulnerable with the group. > Instead, we should validate the person’s experience, ask how > the group can provide support, and use our > motivational interviewing skills to explore the share with > the participant if they are interested in doing > so. If a fellow participant, especially a more powerful > participant, invalidates a person’s share, we should > remind them that we don’t give direct advice in SMART > Recovery and proceed with the steps above. > > > > SMART Recovery is an incredible tool for empowerment when > it’s implemented in a way that respects that not > every person is starting off on a level power playing > field. I hope that you’ll join me in reflecting on this > topic with an open mind in the spirit of continuous > improvement and wanting SMART Recovery to not just be > accessible to all, but also empowering for all. Peace, Pete Rubinas (he/him/his)” I’ll put forth a point by point refutation of this nonsense a bit later, once my phone has recharged and I’ve taken a nap. For now though, I’m curious: Has anyone else been to a support group lately, only to discover that everyone present is hesitating to say much of anything, for fear that they’ll be labelled “problematic”? Has anyone found that the discussion frequently isn’t even focused on the most effective ways of resisting our addictive urges, and instead veers off into babbling about Privilege/Systems Of Power/Structural Injustices/Marginalized People/Toxic Masculinity?